The Dilemma of Value and Why Perfectionism is Overrated...

in #life6 years ago

Hello Steemians!

How do we define the value of something? Are there a set of predetermined rules that indicate this value, or is it merely a matter of preference and taste? Whatever the case, we should not mistake worth with the indulgence of our obsessive tendencies towards perfection.


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Your approach determines the attitude of the world towards you. When you value your own work, the world recognizes that value and gives you back its equivalent. When you don’t hold your own work valuable, the world reduces its importance to utter unawareness and futility.

You should always value your work. That value might show itself in sacrifice. For example, when you sacrifice your sleep or pastime to work on a project, you put a value on it. Trust me, the world always recognizes that value and appreciates the effort that you have put in to realize your big dreams.

Perfectionism is a tendency that is an epitome of cherishing the value of work, but more often than we would care to admit, this tendency becomes an obstacle in the way of our productivity and efficiency.


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Perfectionists tend to be harsh critics of their own work, often struggling to improve on what they are capable of doing in order to achieve something ‘perfect’ or at least something that comes close to resembling perfection.

Psychologists recognize perfectionists in two categories; normal and neurotic. Normal perfectionism is the aspiration to pursue perfection without spoiling one’s self-esteem, whereas neurotic perfectionism is the pursuit of unrealistic and unattainable goals that will only push the person to depression and other mental disorders.

While it is alright and respectable to seek perfection, this trait can turn into a wicked tool that brings about obsessive tendencies for things you have to accomplish within a certain timeframe.


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For one thing, perfectionism makes you less efficient. For example, you finish writing an article for your university, but you keep going through it over and over again for possible improvements. This will take a lot of time, and if this process is obsessive, your work will not be improved at all, but rather tweaked in unlikely and absurd ways.

Procrastination has always been a good companion of perfectionism. In our endeavor to do something as perfectly as possible, we procrastinate and procrastinate, always looking for the ‘moment’ to arrive, little do we know that ‘moments’ are fleeting while we senselessly waste them over the illusion of achieving perfection through a fictitious muse.

One of the other reasons that we should frown upon perfectionism is the fact that it will leave us hung up on pointless details. For perfectionism, in essence, is adding more and more details to your work.

These details will overshadow your vision in observing the bigger picture, thus rendering the whole process of perfectionism ironically redundant.


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Perfectionism is overrated. Aspiring to do something with precision and perfection in mind is not necessarily a detrimental mindset, but when that aspiration turns into an obsession to do something in a particular way.

This tendency will turn into an obstacle that effectively blocks your road to realizing your dreams.

Have a Great WEEK!!!

@chbartist

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I think the value of everything comes from supply and demand :) Knowing to what degree of perfection is needed is a challenge. It relates to all aspects of life, finding the right balance of time vs perfection is the key to success.

agree. perfectionist comes with time

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perfectionist requires time. Im agree perfectionist is not effective way to make something done good because perfectionist will take more time than other to make thing perfect. But if we look in good side , these perfectionist will become perfect one day, thats mean along the way , he ll learn how to reduce time to make thing perfect . In the same time he or she make all effort become his habit. Once these thing become habits , the downtime of doing something will reduce and this will increase the effective of job.

We didnt get good job or well done in only one shoot. It do requires times to make thing as you habit . Some say practise make perfect , but for me perfect practise make perfect instead of wrong practise .

When you value increasing with your habit and effective, world will give you a great value .

There is different between rich and poor where ,poor but not everyone will be paid with their value of time . How much time they spend , the world only pay him or her with time that he use during work. But , rich people being value with result . Thats why perfectionist value will increase over time because he and she keep practising until things become perfect ..

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While I have always considered myself a perfectionist, I always try to remind myself that what is perfect in my eyes, may not necessarily be perfect in the eyes of another, and I try to reach a balance to where I can step back and say "okay, that's as good as it's gonna get" before I step off the cliff and ruin everything.

Thanks.

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I actually try to never be perfect as it does not allow for feedback and improvement. In fact, many times I purposely make work incomplete, particularly with formatting, in order to keep my team on top of providing feedback on how to improve.

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good point of view

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@chbartist, There is no preset or absolute Value Standards and if anyone wants to describe value then in my opinion for sure they will going to reply with the connection towards something means, sometimes, 1000 words cannot create value, but one word reply as Blessings can create warm value for many. So, aspect of value is different for everyone.

Wishing you an great day and stay blessed. 🙂

Most of the excesses are not good, there must always be a balance, what is important and what I have always learned is doing things with excellence, if every time we do something for the first time, maybe we say the next one will be better, but all this in balance and emotional harmony. We have to do the best of our work, of our life, at acceptable levels.

balance . Yeps , somehow i think you are right . Some people who have perfectionist value in life or in their job do things not perfect in purpose . What i mean here is the value or effect after doing thing not perfect in purpose. The learning process by other which make thing balance in their way . Even them (perfectionist ) will learn from other too

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The very right thing has been said, there are two types of things in it. The first thing is that we keep dragging something in an unnecessary way, even if it keeps dragging, even then it does not have the advantage. Some people believe this. Even when people think that by continuous efforts we get success, then both are correct in their place.

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Perfectionism also comes with legalism. Neurotic perfectionism puts you in jeopardy. It will put you in a quagmire of vanity when you haven't done the thing you want to do as you think it ought to be. Give allowance of shortcomings to your work and improve it as time goes by.

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when things become habit

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There is a very motivational post. Sir, you are absolutely right that we will give importance to our work as seriously as possible, with that sincerity, that work will make us successful. And we always succeed in life.

@chbartist Today when I was reading your blog then I get remember one thing that " Your name and your value must be only your it doesn't Matter how small is " as you say one day your perfection will make you great. Only we need to keep continuity on our work. Never mind what world think about you ? Just stay tuned and always be happy. 👌
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