The Problem with New Year Resolutions and How to Actually Achieve Them

in #life6 years ago

Hi, Steemians!

I hope that you are on the brink of entering a wonderful and productive year of your life.
In this blog post, I want to talk about the elephant in the room when it comes to motivational communities and the dilemma of the new year’s resolutions.

We are not always as close as we would like to think to the image of our ideal self. That is why we take some of the special moments in our life make a change to our routine and achieve our goals. A new year is one of those special moments when you think that you can give yourself and your life a fresh start.


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A study has shown that approximately 80% of the people forsake their new year resolutions by the end of February. A lot of them even forget why they needed to improve their lives in the first place, once again becoming oblivious to their condition by the distractions of daily life.

There is no such thing as too ambitious, and that is not the reason you fail at achieving your new year resolutions. There may be many contributing factors to your failure. You may not have specified your goal.

‘I want to live become rich!’ is a decent and respectable goal, but it doesn’t specify any change in your routine. It doesn’t specify what you need to do to become rich, or what choices you have to make in your everyday life to strive towards that vision.


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Also, it is important just how seriously you take your resolution. A lot of people decide on doing something, but they don’t really understand the importance of that decision in their life and the effect that it might have on their daily routine.

They don’t at first realize the things that they have to sacrifice in order to get closer to achieving what they want.
After all, there is always a price to pay. The whole idea of New Year resolutions is to change something in your life.

Are you really and actually willing to make that change? Change is not easy, nor is it comfortable. Most people would rather stay in their comfort zones.

That is why, after a couple of days or a few weeks, you forsake your resolution. Because you didn’t know why you wanted to realize it in the first place.

You didn’t understand the importance and significance that such change could have on your life.


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Do not let this discourage you. The fact that you are here and reading this blog post indicates that you are different than most people, or those 80% who would easily give up and forsake their resolutions.

Mindfulness is the key to achieving your New Year resolutions. Be ambitious, but also be specific. Set goals, milestones, and plan to schedule your daily routine towards those resolutions.

You need to constantly monitor your thoughts and actions to make sure that they fall in harmony with that resolution. Your second to second mindfulness of why you want achieve your resolutions and how they could change your life is key if you don’t want to lose them.


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Consider all the previous New Year celebrations when you made a decision to achieve your resolutions but failed in doing so. Remember last year’s resolutions and how you failed to live up to them.

Make that failure your final shortcoming, and decide to actually realize your resolutions in the upcoming year.

A BIG HUG!

@chbartist

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I am here making a list of all of you who have helped build this community by voting for each other who write meaningful comments and soon I will respond to everyone with comment and thank you all because I can already see this spirit being built in this Positive Mindset community and help between all of you.

You will receive my upvote in all material and brief comments I will do this in all the posts I am following very closely and I can see what the people who are generous and contribute to this legacy that I am trying to build with all of you can become reality in a short time.

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First of all, I would like to thank all of you, who are the most active and proactive in this community, showing your generosity and always with meaningful comments. From now on I will always make a list of these incredible people who have helped to expand our goal of growing ever more.

But I ask that if you are new around here you read many of the previous posts because they make it clear that we are building a community with respect among all, generosity and this blog is for those who really want to start moving their Mindset to positive and moreover be part of the growth of all of us who contribute to this blog. Please do not ask to include you in the list if you are just wanting upvotes because we want here people genuinely attuned to growth and good attitudes and as I have always said with Respect as the basis of all, generosity and positivity!

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Yes yes sir You are right that we do something or some promise when we come to the new year, by doing something new to ourselves, something new to be new. But as you said, we forget by the end of February. We say that we have to be rich but what we have to do to become rich But we can not take away that thing in our lives which are necessary for us to become rich.Thank you

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In my case it happens that I make plans in every month but not every year but I can not reach any work even though I have been a private job for the last 22 years which I am doing regularly.

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When I think of New Year resolutions, it's usually a specific main goal/goals that can be achieved in one year. It is just like a dream, but yearly. Goals like these will require you to stay positive and hopeful since your mettle will surely be tested. We may fail throughout the process, but as long we keep trying and moving forward, our efforts are not futile.

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Es importante saber darse cuenta de lo que no nos gusta de nuestro presente y cómo hemos estado haciendo las cosas para que eso esté así como está, de allí depende que podamos tomar iniciativas de cambio y mantenernos en ellas, aplicarlas, evaluarlas y no perder de vista qué fue lo que nos llevó a asumirlas, monitoreando constantemente el resultado de nuestras acciones, solo así podemos pasar más allá de febrero, marzo, y los demás meses y consolidar lo que deseamos. Este post me ha servido para mucho. Gracias.

hi @chbartist Sir,

Belated New Year Wishes Sir.

Wishing you and your family a very happy and prosperous New Year 2019!

This is a timely advice from you for all of us Sir. You talked extensively about this New Year Problem that arises with the dawn of every year.

I just gave a thought about it. Why make unnecessary resolutions and why forget them in the midway? No need at all!

I too got this "Selective Amnesia(of forgeting NY resolutions." One best friend of mine advised me to disregard this practice.

Just do your duty responsibly, most importantly, love that job while doing it without doing it for the want of doing it mechanically because it is of no use.

He told me that this itself is enough and I was really impressed with his advice and of course, I did implement it!

A very happy New Year (Belated Wishes) to those who commented here!

Sorry to say like this because my Resource Credit is so limited that I was unable to say NY wishes to one and all separately. Hope you all understand.

Thank you for your Kind words! You are very Welcome. no worries about SP. In this Community the most important is respect above all, and attitude! You will grow up. Happy new year!

Thank you very much for your encouraging words @chbartist Sir.

I made my post yesterday on my goals and objectives for 2019 and avoided calling thrm resolutions given the controversy. I approach goals using a Corporate training from years ago in that goals should be SMART:
Specific
Measurable
Achievable
Relevant
Time-Bound
This helps with not giving up throughout the year!

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You're absolutely right, Sir. That we promise you that we will do this thing at the new year or on such a special occasion and we can not do it. After some time he forgets But I believe that if we have to do something, then we should show it by doing it or speaking from someone's mouth.

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It is customary to make resolutions for the new year and on birthdays, and really there are very few that are fulfilled ... one of the ones that always cost me was to diet and exercise, I started a few weeks and then I left it in half, without However, things of greater importance, if I have done them. Maybe that behavior is sometimes due to the degree of importance that people give to resolutions.

I want to take advantage of the comment to tell you that my husband and I made a thank you card to all those who supported us during 2018, and we included you in it. These are the links for you to see, we hope you like it!

https://steemit.com/newyear/@blessed-girl/my-end-of-the-year-gift

https://steemit.com/dtube/@theonlyway/en2k57sj

This is only the second post of yours I have read, but I have been amazed with the connections I make while reading. It is inspiring to find like minded individuals who seem to be on a similar path of mindfulness and the positive energy ripple we can all ride and amplify. I won't overload with recommendation, but might I suggest youtubing Jon Kabat Zin or Shauna Shapiro. Both have taught me much of Mindfulness and the benefits it can have to our present moment. I am very happy I found your community and look forward to us all growing together :) Positive thoughts for a wonderful day and finding lots to smile about :)

Lots to smile for you too! ;) ;) ;) ;)

A few hundred reaches have appeared choosing early when and how you will act as per your objectives causes you begin and abstain from being wrecked by tiredness or different diversions. Therefore, objectives are unquestionably bound to be achieved when matched with execution goals.

Obviously, there's no enchantment wand to emerge your New Year's goals.
@chbartist

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