What is Fear of Success and How to Deal With it?
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We fear success as much as we fear failure. For some of us, the idea of success is desirable and at the same time, hauntingly burdensome. What is fear of success and how does it affect our mindset?
To people who have fear of success, procrastination is an old friend. They often run away from their tasks and goals as a way to delay their inevitable achievement. Their thoughts are usually contradictory because they are not sure of what they want from themselves and how they are going to react when they realize their dreams and achieve success.
The fear of success is a theory that basically indicates you are not willing to put everything you have got for the things that you dream about, because deep inside your subconsciousness, there is a part that fights back against the idea of success out of an irrational fear.
This irrational fear then manifests itself in different forms of deferment. Some people might spend years and years fighting a losing battle with themselves about the idea of success and what one must endure in order to achieve it.
This is tragic in one regard, as people who are often questioning themselves can never allocate the appropriate time to grow as a character. Their fights always remain the same, and the battlefields they roam will be those that have been exhausted for a thousand times.
If you want to destroy that part of your brain which fights back against your desire and longing for success, you first need to understand this fear.
One of the main reasons that fear of success develops in our mind is because we dread change. Humans are creatures of habit and show aggression towards any sort of change to the routine that they have accustomed themselves with.
Success is a massive change to your lifestyle. Your achievements at any point in your life contribute to the way you live it, and that is the prominent reason behind fear of success; the fear of having to change how you spend your days.
What you need to understand is that success will not change your mindset towards life. You will always strive for greater things, and you will always live life with respect to your ideals and values. Change is inevitable, because the more you fight it, the more its shadows will loom over your life.
Embrace change, and destroy your irrational fear of having to make a difference in your lifestyle.
The other important reason behind fear of success is becoming popular, famous, and ultimately standing out as a result of achieving something as opposed to most people who only dream about it.
This is why you fall into the trap of your mind and fear success, spending more time talking about your dreams than actually taking steps to realize them. Because you feel like that for those around you, you will become a totally different person if you achieve something of high value.
Blending and fitting in with everybody else in our societies is the easy choice. The hard choice would be working up the courage to actually embrace your uniqueness and step towards your inner light, rather than putting it out because you fear what others might think of you and how they might treat you if you show the results of your distinctive mindset and approach.
Conforming to the pattern of society is always the easy path. Because in that case, you do not have to go through the pain of rejection, or even fear from it.
Your whole life becomes a blueprint and by following its steps, you will not have to tolerate any hardship or difficulty that is beyond measures.
But let me ask you this, my friends: At what cost? At what cost do we throw away our uniqueness and fear our inevitable success?
Think about the points that I made in this article.
Think about how each and every one of those emotions impacts your inner core, and find a way to extinguish your inner fear of success.
A BIG HUG!
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False evidence appearing real
That's the meaning of fear, the fear of being successful, the fear of actualizing your dream
They are all false evidence which tend to be real in your mind
Try accommodating change and destroy that irrational false evidence because change is inevitable
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Yeah! Be ready for success! Nice post...I recommend this for #up-gage by @zephalexia
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nice
Dear @chbartist sir!
If unwanted success is suddenly found, then it becomes difficult for a person to digest it, which is why he is afraid of this success. Whose only reason is that we are not mentally prepared for that success. If success is achieved after hard work and constant struggle, then its value increases. People's expectations and hopes increase due to our success. With the burden of these expectations we get embarrassed and start to panic with success. One of the main reasons for fear of success is that we are afraid of change. Even if you do not want to, we have to accept things that are not included in our habits.
Change is the rule of the world and we are also a part of these changes. The sooner you understand and accept these things, the faster you can get control of the fear of success.
Thank you
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Dear @chbartist,
I realize this this is true. Like many other people i wouldn't have any idea about fear of success. I didn't even think about it because i never thought something like this os there in our mind.
But i think its true. And like you said it is exactly the fear for the change.
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There is another layer to the dread of progress. A significant number of us have been molded to trust that the way to progress includes dangers. What's more, a large number of us particularly in the event that we've been liable to verbal maltreatment have been told we were failures our entire lives, somehow. We have disguised that input and feel that we don't merit achievement. Indeed, even those of us who were not manhandled or generally damaged regularly connect accomplishment with awkward things, for example, rivalry.
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Thanks @chbartist for sharing......... Truly a mindset you have said absolutely all true that majority of people nowaday's have a fear of successa simply because they don't really know what they want or what they want to achieve for themselves.
You can now include my name to the list.
Thanks👍!
Fame can be a result of our success. Some people work very hard to get success and the fame could never comes. Another people work hard and the fame comes as one consequence of their jobs. The most important is haven’t fear to success and if the fame comes don’t let that this to lead our purposes. Hugs @chbartist and build together beyond a community supported on the respect and a mutual help.
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IM READY TO BE A SUCCESSFUL MAN SOMEDAY!
There is a secret about fear of success that not many people are aware of. There is no fear of success. There is no fear of failure. There is no fear except for one...
One thing that has become painfully clear to me in the last couple of years is that there is just one fear, and it manifests itself in several ways. There is only one fear, and it is the fear of the unknown.
If you have the fear of success, you need to take a closer look at the fear, and if you do, you will discover that you are not afraid of success, but instead you are afraid of the unknowns related to success. What are the unknowns that are causing your fear? Perhaps you do not want your relationships with your closest friends and family to change, and you are worried that things will change and not for the better. Not knowing how things will change will cause fear.
People are afraid of change, but again, it is not change itself that is the problem. The real problem is what unknowns are attached to the change. If you have ever had a haircut, or bought a new pair of shoes, and you did not experience fear, this should show you that change itself is not the problem. To have a haircut is to change something about yourself. To buy a pair of shoes again brings some change to your wardrobe. Neither of these changes will bring fear until an unknown is attached. If you do not know how skilled your hairdresser is, not knowing whether they will mess your hair up or not may make you nervous and indeed fearful.
If you want to conquer the fear of success, or any other fear you need to eliminate the perceived unknowns, or to make them as small as possible. Small unknowns, small fear. Big unknowns, big fear.
I vibe with your insight! Would you say that a way to sum up what you are saying might be "you're going to have to practice successful steps in order to get comfortable with them?"
Many people throughout their lives experience, in some circumstances, the fear of success. When someone is in this situation, he tends to put obstacles in himself, often unconsciously. This prevents him from improving, prospering and achieving certain objectives.
We think that, to greater success, greater responsibilities, work and effort.
We believe that success will demand from us behaviors we do not have or responsibilities that we do not know how to handle.
When we think that the cost will be very high, we slow down.
Reflect on the possible origin of the fear of success.
Detect, for example, if it may be due to certain life experiences, the style of education received, the learning made over the years, self-esteem, personal insecurities, excessive perfectionism or need for control, etc. .
Pose what is success and failure.
They are relative concepts that people must have clear personal form. In addition, they must assess a priori the beliefs they will have if they achieve success.
Adopt a proactive attitude
Anyone should be aware that it is possible to choose and guide their own way, instead of getting carried away.
Saludos @darlenys01, excelente síntesis sobre el tema! Con respeto al "Cuando pensamos que el costo sera muy alto, disminuiremos", completamente de acuerdo. En este sentido, y como indicas en tu síntesis, debemos revisar nuestros estereotipos.
Feliz día.Thanks for your kind comment @tramelibre.