Of course, the other thing about arguments is that they can only exist where there is a mindset that any situation — by definition — must have "winners" and "losers." If we simply brush winning/losing aside and look for solutions, the argument tends to die.
Very interesting and thoughtful post. Found you via @clayboyn.
You speak truth, Mr Denmarkguy... :) I would add though, that when folks decide that their solution is the only viable one, the argument pulls a phoenix and flares again. I guess that's why problems are solved and arguments resolved (teehee).