I am sorry you have to go through all that. And i am more sorry that you have to use your sad story as motivation for others. I said you have a heart of gold. I meant it and i wasnt just saying that to tease.

Most times when we see someone probably dressed in nice clothes and driving a big car. We tend not to bother about what the person has gone through to get to where he is. We just interpret the physical things we see. Though on the outside the person might be happy but on the inside might be a person that has gone through a lot of struggles to get to where he is. But we dont know that and sometimes we do not even bother. How can we even bother? It us the human nature in most of us.
But

The rich also cry

You have a loving mum and i have a loving mum too. We just need to find a lasting happiness for these women for their love, care, courage and strength. But my dad................hmmmmm. Well i think i will just say nobody is perfect and everybody deserves to be loved no matter what they have done.