Nobody learns in the head of others

in #life6 years ago

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Hello to all my friends from Steemit, today I start my theme with this phrase "Nobody learns in the head of others" since people learn mostly thanks to the circumstances of life, their experiences, their emotions and thoughts.

Sometimes, however much we want to advise someone, be it a family member or a friend, it is necessary to make clear to them our way of seeing and thinking about what is happening to them, also, you can have an opinion according to what he or she tells. But in such a case, about what we think we can prevent to avoid suffering, monetary losses, among other aspects, will really depend on that person and on his level of maturity.

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How many of you have passed that once you advise a friend ends up doing the opposite of what you said, and even if we get angry, you just have to hope that this person has served a great lesson, clear that we love when you tell us you were right, the thing is ... it's too late, it has been able to prevent tears and pain.

On the other hand, this is not a reason not to get involved in the affairs of others, but even to us. It has been scientifically proven that in every sentence when you start with the word "no" the brain does not understand it. Because when describing automatically, imagine the action and therefore execute it, put it to work. If it says "it does not hurt" it consequently hurts more, self-understanding "it hurts".

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Another simple example: a child who is running, his mother says "do not run" because he wants to rest or walk calmly, the child understands "run" so he continues running and the mother says "Is that this child does not obey" the correct thing would be to say "stop running", or "please can you walk?"

What I want to say is that the same happens to each one of us, if you say "I'm not going to fall in love", and what do you think? The brain understands "I'm going to fall in love".

So if you ever say "I do not advise you again" you think ... "I'll advise you again". So far this article, I hope it has caught your attention and share it with your best friend or with your partner. Leave me your comment, I will gladly read it. Happy afternoon.

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