What should ladies do while waiting for the right one?

Finding and meeting your lifelong partner is one of the most talked about and trending topics these days. Naturally, we are very careful in choosing a spouse because we want him/her to be God’s best for us. We don’t want to be just settling for someone just because we are desperate and that person is the most available and convenient partner to be with.

You see, most of my girl friends are waiting for their God’s best. It’s so sweet hearing their stories about waiting and trusting God for their spouse. But I also know it’s not all nice and sweet, I can see in their eyes that there are also doubts, fears, unbelief, and that question- “Is there really that one person reserved for me? Am I waiting in vain? Why so long Lord?”. As I listen to them and pray with them in this journey, I learn a lot from them and I also have a lot of insights that I want to share with them. 🙂

Waiting and trusting God with our future spouse requires 101% FAITH. Here a few things that could help you and encourage you to trust God and that He is writing in the backstage your beautiful lovestory.

1. Work on yourself

Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.”

You know what, we women are valuable gems in the eyes of the Lord. We are a reward and gift to the men. That is why we should never settle for less than we deserve because we are valuable and special from the very beginning. Eve was given to Adam so he can have a partner in life. Eve was God’s gift to Adam. And we all know that when we buy gifts for a friend, they are well thought of, carefully chosen and we make sure that there is nothing broken or it should be perfect.

That is why women, while waiting for their partner, should always work and make sure that we are that beautiful and perfect gift for him. We don’t want to be unprepared. We should be working on our baggages, settling our issues with anyone, and we should be pure in thoughts, actions and in heart. So when the right man of God comes along, he would definitely see God’s goodness and favors in his life.

2. Check your Character

Proverbs 31:25-27 “She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.”

Let us all walk the talk. If we say we want a godly husband, let us strive our best to be godly wives first. If we want a man who is pure and genuine in his intentions, let us also be pure and genuine in our own agendas. Let us not only look around and search for good character but also let’s look within and evaluate if we have good character. As women, we could make or break a man, so our character is very crucial in our future relationship. The words that we speak should only be words to encourage and uplift our partner. Our actions should always be kind and respectful to our partner. As what they always say, Change starts from within. So if we want a lovestory that is not of this world and one that can withstand the works of the enemy, let’s start to look within our hearts first before we ask for someone we are not. An epitome of a godly woman is perfectly laid out in proverbs 31. You might want to check that out. 🙂

3. Wait in the right spot.

Most of the ladies are waiting and trusting God for their future spouse but they are not waiting in the right spot. What am I trying to say here? If you want to ride a bus, you have to wait in the bus stop not in the taxi lane. You can wait in the taxi lane all you want and you can see different taxi cabs but if you plan on getting a bus you can never ride a bus from there. If the movie you plan to watch a movie and the movie is in Cinema 1, then you should be waiting in line outside the Cinema 1 not in the other cinemas. You can wait patiently on that line but you can never get to see the movie because you’re in the wrong line.

Ladies, position yourselves in the right spot. If you are searching for a godly man, then most probably you can never find him in the clubs. If you want to find a man who has the drive and will to pursue his dreams, then most probably you can never find him just killing time in the mall, you have to go out there and find a job. If you want a man humble before God, then don’t position yourself in places where only worldly man can see you. It’s not enough to just be waiting in the corner and praying that God will just send the right man. You have to do your part. Be noticeable. Don’t be lazy. Get out there, position yourself in the right spot, associate yourself with the right crowd and then wait for God’s move.

And above all things, never forget to PRAY. Prayer is the key to God’s miracles. Be expectant in your heart. Do not lose faith and continue to pray for your future spouse. Pray for his protection. Pray for his well being. Pray for his life. Pray for him.

And most importantly, never wait out of desperation. When you are desperate, you are trying to replace God by finding your perfect match. Always be conscious that God is enough and that He is your soulmate. Meeting your spouse is just an added bonus for seeking Him first above all things. 🙂

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