6 Types of Women to Avoid - Warning! Controversial!

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1. Spoil Me. I'm a Princess

The "Spoil Me. I'm a Princess" woman is typically a woman that carries herself as a lady and with a high degree of self-respect. It is very important to her that she is seen as respectable and someone of high value. She is typically very nice to everyone and may even be someone who does good deeds for those who are less fortunate (the peasants).

However the princess is also typically very shallow and uses people, whether friends, family or romantic interests. She believes that she is a person of such high value that others should constantly be doing favors for her and giving her gifts and special treatment just for the pleasure of being in her presence. She typically has very few real skills and may be (though not always) of less than average intelligence. She also typically has very little loyalty or persistence.

Though the "Spoil Me. I'm a Princess" woman considers herself to be a genuinely caring and loving person, she is accustomed to people giving her what she wants without having to work very hard or make any significant sacrifice for it. For her, just showing up is enough. So she will quickly abandon relationships or responsibilities that cause even the slightest difficulty in her life. Any gift given to her or favor done for her, no matter how valuable, will soon be forgotten because she views it almost as a duty of others (the common people) to provide for her.

The princess lives in a charmed delusional state and is characterized by self-deception regarding her true nature. She borders on narcissism and will take no responsibility for any negative outcomes of her actions or lack of actions. These women often don't work. However, when they do work, it is often in a position where they have a special relationship with the employer, whether it be under someone she has a romantic relationship with or a family member. This allows her to receive something that is essential for her survival, special treatment.

Whenever the princess does not receive something she wants, she is quick to pout or cry and let everyone know of her general dissatisfaction with life, while she awaits someone to rescue her from the nightmare of not getting her way.

2. I'm a Barbie B!tch

This type of woman is a similar to the princess but is a pure narcissist. She is usually a woman that is very physically desirable to men and makes no bones about using this to her utmost advantage. Unlike the "Spoil Me. I'm a Princess" woman, the "I'm a Barbie B!tch" woman doesn't care much about being seen as a lady in the traditional sense. She is all about using the power of sexual desire to manipulate as many men as possible for her own benefit. She dresses provocatively, takes sexy photos and uses sex or the anticipation of sex to get what she wants.

Like the princess, the Barbie is very shallow, has little loyalty and will take no responsibility for the negative outcomes of her actions. She is however more calculating, and usually sets short and long-term specific goals like putting herself through college or purchasing an expensive car or home she wants. While the princess usually goes for one big fish to provide all her primary needs and uses others when convenient as supplementary providers, the Barbie has less problem spreading herself thin. So whether she has one main provider or many small providers she will move relentlessly toward her goals.

The "I'm a Barbie B!tch" woman has little to no feelings for men and is aware of this. Men are almost exclusively a means to an end for her. She views them as easily replaceable and has no problem intentionally destroying men if it is to her advantage. While the princess plays the role of the victim hoping to be saved, the Barbie is the predator. She sifts through men in order to find the ones she feels she can most easily manipulate.

When the Barbie doesn't get what she wants she can become extremely vindictive and may quickly resort to lying, gossip, blackmail, property destruction and violence. These women can also sometimes be bisexual which is fueled by their narcissistic view of beauty and sex, general disdain for men, willingness to be equal opportunity users and willingness to team up with other "I'm a Barbie B!tch" women to accomplish their goals.

3. I Can Do It Myself. Help Me!

The "I can do it myself. Help me!" woman is characterized by her contradictory nature. On the one hand she believes women are capable of doing anything and everything just as well as men, but on the other hand she believes women should receive assistance, special exceptions and more praise for accomplishing the same tasks men routinely accomplish. She clings to traditional gender roles, such as men paying for dates and "ladies first" when seen as advantageous, but rejects any gender roles that place her in a submissive role.

This type of woman thrives on receiving acknowledgment for her accomplishments, even when there is nothing truly praise-worthy about them. She tries to amplify any accomplishments to a disproportionate level and seeks to be rewarded for them disproportionately as well. These women come in all social classes, from the single mother on welfare who brags about being a "strong independent woman taking care of her kids", to the executive who's department misses all their goals but wants a promotion for being the "hardest working person in this company!"

In intimate relationships these women use a false guise of equality to control. She will say she wants to be an equal partner but in reality she seeks to assert a passive aggressive dominance. She wants to make the decisions but do it under the pretense of it being a consensus. For her it is not enough to agree to do what she wants but she wants to portray an image of equality and a "healthy relationship where decisions are mutually agreed upon."

When she does not get what she wants, whether in personal or business settings, she will fall back on accusations of discrimination and bullying (i.e. "you never care about my opinion" or "you always overlook what I say" ... "and I'm not going to take it anymore"), as a means of delivering passive aggressive threats or pouting and crying for sympathy. When extremely upset she may resort to throwing tantrums or physical abuse while hiding behind the defense of it never being o.k. for a man to hit a woman. In the workplace she may file frivolous lawsuits on the basis of gender discrimination or harassment. In these ways she simultaneously plays the role of aggressor and victim.

4. I Can Do It Myself. Don't Help Me!

The "I can do it myself. Don't help me!" woman is a woman who genuinely wants to compete with men and prove to herself and others that women are not only equal but superior to men. She is frustrated and angered by men's higher position in society and has a deep-seated resentment of men in general. If she finds a man that she can exert some type of control or dominance over, she will seek to abuse him and humiliate him in order to prove her superiority.

Since the world around around the "Don't Help Me!" woman does not support her view of her female superiority, she will use complex circular reasoning to explain why women are not in the position they should be in according to her thinking. She will also seek to minimize male accomplishments and give excuses for why women have not attained the same levels in athletics, science, business, world government etc.

These women have a deep hatred of almost all men and will have no sympathy or remorse for harm done to a man by a woman. Her reasoning is along the lines of if he is weak enough to fall victim to something, he deserves it. Furthermore, she believes that since women have endured more abuse at the hands of men, it is a form of payback. For this reason she may take on the role of protector of womanhood and inject herself into any situation where she thinks a woman is being slighted.

"Don't help me!" women are usually ardent feminists and often lesbians and may have previously been the recipients of abuse by a man or by multiple men. Though she would never admit it, the "I can do it myself. Don't help me!" woman has a fear of men and secretly spends her life trying to prove to herself that she's too tough to be taken advantage of by a man and she doesn't need a man to protect her.

5. Homie Hos

These are women that are completely comfortable hanging with the boys. You will often hear them say things like, "Most of my friends are guys," or "I just don't get along with most women." They will often state the reason that they don't get along with other women being that they're too catty, petty etc. This may be true, but even more importantly, they love the feeling of being catered to, protected by and desired by multiple men simultaneously. Also, there may be problems getting along with other women because of their desire to be "friends" with the men in those women's lives.

Though on some level they may want a relationship, these "Homie Hos" often find it difficult to make relationships work because of their friendships and the fact that some of those friends may be men that they've previously had or currently have sexual relationships with. Those relationships hinder them from forming exclusive relationships.

Even when the homie ho's relationships with their male friends are not sexual, they psychologically interfere with them being able to commit completely to a relationship. If they are in a relationship, they will often end up cheating and are likely to rationalize it as getting caught up in the moment or having too much to drink etc. They will always represent their friendships with men as being totally innocent and a Homie Ho may invite the man in her life to join in on whatever "totally innocent" activity she is engaged in with her friend(s). However, this is secretly the last thing she wants and she will make efforts to sabotage any attempts to integrate these two parts of her life.

6. Ball and Chain Wife

The "Ball and Chain" wife is a control freak. She wants to control every aspect of life for her partner and any children that may exist. She constantly manipulates and controls by using negative pressure and will resort to abuse. Everyone must do what she wants, when she wants it, or there will be hell to pay.

Where other women may use kind words, food or sex to manipulate, she uses antagonistic torment and threats. She devolves a relationship from one where two people enjoy each other's company to one where the best times are the times of silence when she is not brow-beating, nagging and generally making life a living hell. She may use pregnancy or children to blackmail, extort or for sympathy. She may also use the looming threat of the financial hardship of going through a divorce or separation of co-mingled funds similarly. Whatever her means, she takes on the identity of warden in the relationship, while her significant other becomes the prisoner.

It is important to note the "Ball and Chain Wife" does not actually have to be a wife. These personality traits will begin to show themselves before she is actually married. She will often hide them if there are no children, strong financial ties or other means for her to exert control. However, marriage, joint purchases, pregnancy and the birth of a child will amplify this controlling nature. Each of these events will increase her sense of entitlement to see it as her right to take the reigns of the relationship.

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This is amazing! I want to do something life this also.

@jrobi