HUMAN FRIENDSHIP, OR HOW IS A GOOD BEHAVIOR IN COMMUNICATION WITH THE REPRESENTATIVES OF MALES

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Few women can boast their ability to be friends with men. Most of the fair sex simply do not know how to be friends with men, make many mistakes in communicating with them, naively believing that being friends with men is the same thing as being friends with women. But it is not so! Men are creatures of a completely different warehouse than we, women. They have a different psychology, different from the female type of behavior.

Why do we have to be friends with men? Firstly, if you have a young man, it would be nice to be able to get along with his male friends. This will lift you up in the eyes of your boyfriend and his company, which is important, as the opinion of his friends about you can greatly influence your relationship. Secondly, if you do not have a boyfriend, with the help of male friends it is easier to rectify the situation and find someone to yourself. In general, friendship with men can bring you a lot of benefits. For example, you will always be with someone to come out "in the light" and have a good time. Men are able to give practical advice, their support will help you to go through life more easily. Respect for men is dear, a woman is not easy to earn, - at least, such an attitude will raise your self-esteem, as a maximum - will give a true and loyal friend. In addition, a male friend will never discourage your boyfriend. Communicating with men is in fact invaluable, a different view of things peculiar to them will open up a completely different world for you.

So, if you are convinced that you need friendship with men - it's time to act and learn how to behave with them correctly. First, let's get acquainted with how NOT to behave with men. Here are some erroneous types of female behavior in the company of men.

"Girl". Women of this type behave like men, trying to imitate male manners. For example, they loudly swear, drink vodka, tell greasy jokes and the like. In their opinion, these are the characteristics of a real man. In the people of these women are also called "woman clap." They often demonstrate rudeness in their behavior, wear mostly sports clothing, look completely unfeeling and despise everything refined, trying in this way to become “their own” in the men's company. Dear ladies, this will not help you! By copying the male tone of communication and style of clothes, you will not become a man and you will not achieve anything except perplexity on their part. Normal men do not like rudeness or vulgarity from women, and in order to become a friend for men, it is not necessary to turn into unshaven Antonio Banderas

Bitch-careerist. These are mostly successful women with a strong character who know their worth. They look well-groomed, they are cold in communication, they talk down to men. The attitude towards the representatives of the stronger sex is purely consumer: they need to communicate with men rather in order to achieve a certain goal - often this is either mercantile or business interest. Men feel this and avoid such females, or compete with them. Women with such behavior can be advised: imperiousness, command tone is good to use at work, and in your free time, resting in the company of men, discard your boss and remain a woman. Not even a woman - just a man, with its flaws and imperfections. Sometimes being weak is not a crime. Success and independence are welcomed by men, and they will rejoice for you, but only if you do not boast about it.

The type opposite to the careerist is “simple” or naive moth. Such women show helplessness, inconsistency in life matters and decisions, weakness, inexperience, and often outplay it. They can be described by the following epithets: feminine, tender, soft. They have the appropriate appearance - a kind of airy, unearthly creation in a white dress, mouth ajar and innocently clapping eyes. They admire male skills (which is very flattering for men), agree with them in everything, and any incomprehensible subject raises the question to these women: "What kind of thing is this?" At first, such behavior is liked by men, makes them feel competent, confident in the society of such a woman, able to solve her problems, protect the poor thing from the evil world. Men feel affection in relation to the baby, good-natured indulgence, for example, by helping something unskillful butterfly. But over time, the helplessness of the moth begins to bother and annoy them.

The latter type is a cheeky, accessible woman. She can be recognized by inviting, mock and passionate laughter in the company of men. She is always defiantly dressed, made up, seductive looks. Femininity is exaggerated in her. In a conversation with men, it is characteristic for her to gently touch the arm or shoulder of the interlocutor. Of course, men like this type of woman, like her manners, open sexuality. But it is unlikely that it will be taken seriously by men - they may consider this behavior a signal to action - that is, to bed adventures. If your goal is sex, then you will get what you want without any problems. If you want friendship with men, then it is better not to practice this behavior. Men may take it as a provocation and then bewildered - and what is it, didn't you want it? In case you sleep with one from the company of men, the others will not be looking at a sex toy anymore.

How to behave with men in order to gain their respect, but not to turn into a “dork”; to remain a woman, but not cause pity or contempt? Here are some simple tips:

•  do not play roles. Men do not tolerate abnormal behavior;
•  don't be too emotional. A storm of emotions is permissible for female communication, while hysterics, an abundance of tears, or violent delight are alien to men;
•  in a conversation with men, talk more about the topic, about specific events than about feelings. Discuss emotions and feelings with your girlfriend, men are closer to talking about specific things. Men in general are direct people, honor and praise them for it. Therefore, fewer words - more action;
•  when talking about something or answering a question, try to speak briefly and clearly, without dissolving anything and, again, using more facts than feelings;
•  communicating with men, choose such topics of conversation as they are interested in. For example, about politics, work, sports, science, technology. You see, not all men can spend hours listening to your outpourings about a new handbag or economic affairs;
•  never speak as an expert on things in which you do not understand anything. Nothing kills a man’s respect for you, as false competence. If you do not know something or do not understand, admit it honestly and say: “I do not really understand this question. Explain to me";
•  do not be afraid to express your opinion, even if it differs from the majority opinion. But only if you are sure of what you are saying. By the way, arguing with men is also possible - they will appreciate how you defend your point of view. Here your girlfriend of the same sex as you can be offended if you disagree with her, and this will not happen in men's society;
•  do not be too touchy. If something does not suit you, think and tell about it directly. You will sulk and play "in silence" - they will not understand you;
•  Do not criticize a man for all, his pride will not forgive you. Any comments tell him in private;
•  If a man has done something good or right, in your opinion - do not forget to mention this. Men appreciate praise, especially “for the cause”;
•  do not gossip in the presence of men;
•  Do not whine and do not feel sorry for yourself in the company of men. Women like to cry and let off steam in such a way, but men have a different view: problems must be solved by changing the circumstances by action, not by whining;
•  do not flirt with anyone, being in the company of men. This was written above - you lose their respect. They can perceive you either as an attractive object, or as a friend - there is no third option. Unfortunately, to flirt with a man today, and tomorrow it’s just impossible to be friends;
•  know how to listen and, most importantly, hear men. They appreciate it! However, the same applies to your female friends

Summarizing, we can say: the key to a true and lasting friendship with men is mutual respect. Be sincere, appreciate the masculine principle in them - and they will repay you a hundredfold!