How Relationships Are Like Investments
People get weirded out when I throw the word investment around...
Although I gotta admit when people buy something silly and call it an "investment." To me, Investment means you have to have some return on it. If the item or thing doesn't give you any value, Or doesn't promise value. It's not an investment.
People underestimate relationships.
I hate relationships these days; They aren't taken as seriously as they were back in the day. People have no problem playing head games for years at a time, Never revealing their true intentions overall.
Many of us are concerned about being successful in life and saving our money. But out of every aspect of our life that we DO ANALYZE. We forget a very important area.
OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
Relationships can drain us in every way.
I originally wanted to talk about romantic relationships, But the more I think about it, Much of this information applies to all relationships.
Relationships can be a waste of time, Sure we may learn a lot from experience. But so many people enter a relationship without thinking of their overall goals for the outcoming, Or progress in which the relationship should take.
Goals for relationships... What the hell?!
Maybe you are more traditional in a sense that you would like to eventually settle down and marry, Which means the types of relationships you should stick with, Should have those similar goals.
Otherwise it won't work, And instead, that relationship will be an endless pit of pain and circles of fights.
It's silly that many people will date some one that they aren't even compatible with, Hoping they can some how change them.
People DON'T CHANGE!
sure, People can change overtime, On their own. Gradually.. But it seems as though the more you push, The more reluctant they are to change. It's better to find someone who is more compatible with you.
Millionaires and Marriage.
I always like to look into what millionaires are doing, Because the majority of millionaires today " 70% ". Originally came from the working class, According to Tax foundation.org Here are some surprising statistics.
As you can see, Being in a relationship and married, increases your chances for wealth. Your relationship is an investment.
It doesn't work out for everyone!
This is another reason that it's important to treat your love life as an investment, You've probably heard the "don't put all your eggs in one basket." And by saying that I'm not necessarily saying you should cheat on your lover, I Mean I can't disagree that it would heighten your chances of being successful and finding the perfect partner, But It's not always considered the most ethical approach.
When you don't "put all your eggs in one basket." in the relationship. That means you are being self-sufficient and ensuring that you also have the resources to provide for yourself. As shown in the charts, having two working people who provide equal value, Can cause a massive rise in income in the relationship.
Choose the right person!
Of course, it also comes down to choosing the right person. If you pick someone who is obsessed with shopping, this may cause issues. It's better to pick someone who likes to budget and learn about investing. Choosing the correct partner can ensure your success in the long run.
This doesn't just relate to financial matters.
It's important to look at all aspects of your relationship investment, Not just your financial life, Obviously dating someone who constantly tears you down is not smart either, it will gradually destroy you overtime, leaving you empty.
Having a positive relationship can change the entire course of your life, That is why it's important to exercise caution on who you spend your time with. You may regret it later.
Having relationship is in human's nature , we need it as humans, but when you get to romance stuff, a specific question pops up:
"how long does/should it last?" and most of the time the answer is not the same at both sides of the deal, that is when a good investment(in our mind) turns to crap and one side of the deal loses his/her investment
I like your mindset on this!
I must be lucky I guess. I found and married an absolute beast of a woman. To my surprise she lived on the other side of the world for the first 20 years of our lives.
But that's not going to be my main point here. What I see happening in society today (mostly developed countries, such as the US) is we have grown into a "throw away" society.
What I mean is everything is to easy to throw away and get something new. You go to Walmart pick up crap you expect won't last long but you know you can just replace it with something new when it breaks anyway. I see the same happening when it comes to morals etc. in personal relationships with many people. It's easy to walk in get a divorce in the US and be onto the next new thing.
It comes down to society and individual morals and behaviors. People need to replace "throw away" mentality with "we can fix it and make it work" mentality. Of course there are extreme cases that fixing it won't be an option, but often times a fix isn't even attempted.
I agree we are a throw away society and it's sad.
I agree with you, While there are many things that can be fixed. Some of the basics of someones personality cannot be. In that case throwing away maybe an answer.
It takes time to develop a good relationship and every time we talk about time we need to be careful where we invest it.
A good relationship can do wonders: "Behind a great man, there's always a great woman." ... and maybe we could come up with a new proverb, suitable to our times :)
We should <3 I love your comment.
We do need to be careful.
You're right people really don't embrace the word "investment" because they associate it with fat cat elites, but everyone is an investor, investing their time, energy, and/or money in what they care about. You're right!
fully support this post! great topic, upvoted
Thank you so much hehe.
A good relationship definitely needs TIME! humans were not born to be alone. great post
Agreed hehe :)
Getting married and staying married is a great accelerator towards wealth building. Of course, your partner has to be chosen very carefully, like you said, or they could be the greatest decelerator! Unfortunately in my life I've done it both ways! Awesome post :D
Aww man that would be hard to switch! Hopefully things are working better for you know! I'm kind of dealing with the confusion with the guy I'm currently dating, He's very frugal, But he struggles to get jobs. And struggles to find creative ways to make money, While I'm kind of the opposite haha.
Ah well, you seem smart so I am sure you'll figure it out ;)
nice post
Thank you
great post as always! liked it!
thank you so much :)