Solitude is not loneliness, but the best value-added period for a person.

If a person goes to Haidilao, the waiter will put a bear doll in front of the lonely diner to accompany him. This is interesting because of the personality services provided by Haidilao, but it raises the question: Is it really lonely to eat alone? Does one have to be accompanied and not have time to be alone?

Being alone is a kind of ability

We have been trying to make ourselves look like a group. We spend a lot of time in various Wechat groups every day, participating in various gatherings. We would rather lose ourselves in the crowd, engage in some meaningless activities, become a group, rather than be alone.

Thoreau, an American philosopher, lived alone on the shore of Walden Lake for two years, far from the hustle and bustle. For two years, Thoreau had been farming himself and eating alone all the time, which sounded very lonely.

Later, someone asked him, "You must be lonely when you live alone. You really want to meet people, especially in snowy days."

Thoreau answered, "Isn't the earth on which we live just a boat in the universe? Why do I feel lonely? I'm so alone. So far, I haven't found a companion who can make me feel as kind as being alone."

People often regard communication as a kind of ability, but neglect that solitude is also a kind of ability, and in a sense, it is more important than communication. Instead of wasting time and energy and socializing uselessly, learn how to get along with yourself.

"Why do you decide what you are?"

Junge said: Some people do things they don't like in order to get along with others and hide their true thoughts. Being alone does not mean loneliness, but is the best way to know yourself.

Best Value Added Period

In this impetuous society, as long as one can calm down to do something, pursue the inner stability needed, and get joy in it, it is high-quality solitude.

Many people know that Jobs, the founder of Apple, has studied Buddhism, so he likes meditation. Whether he founded Apple or returned to power, Jobs often meditated.

In a speech, Jobs spoke to the graduating students about his persistent belief in following your heart.

"If you sit down and observe, you will find your inner uneasiness. If you try to calm down, it will probably get worse, but after a period of time it will quiet down, and you will have a better understanding of many things at present. Your mind slows down. You perceive a huge expansion of your mind. You can see much more than you did before.

A person's solitude allows you to dig deep inside and find the most authentic self. Sometimes it's time to be alone that really opens the gap between you and others.

"Operating oneself is an eternal theme."

Junge said: Use your time alone to add value to yourself, you will be more confident about what you really want and know how to run yourself. Only when people learn to listen to their inner voice can they live deeper and deeper, and can they make a poem of every bit of life.

Enjoy solitude

Previously, someone on the Internet asked, "Why do so many people drive home and have to sit in the car for a long time when they get downstairs?"

One answer was, "Many times when we get home, we don't want to get off because it's a demarcation point. Push the door, you are the father, the son, the husband, but not yourself. In the car, a person in the car want to be quiet, smoke a cigarette, this body belongs to himself.

We have a lot of identities, many times we forget who we are and play various roles every day to face all kinds of people, constantly instilling in ourselves the code of conduct of "mature" and "high emotional intelligence".

Many times we need a solitary space to think, rest and relax ourselves. We don't need to worry about other people's eyes. We don't need to think about anything. We just need to think about ourselves.

While enjoying solitude, think deeply about what to do next and understand your real needs. Sometimes, low-quality social interaction is not as good as high-quality solitude. Unfortunately, many people don't know the value of being alone. Only those moments of being alone can make you shine.