Build Relationships With Other People

in #life8 years ago

In his book entitled " High Maintenance Relationship " , Les Parrot III explains how we build relationships demanding with others . We met so many people of different character , temperament , even people who are impossible for us to invite good friends of those in the workplace , schools and even the environment in which we live . Often we complain about our relationships with other people compared with the income we earn. Apparently satisfaction in a relationship that will determine whether we like it or hate it.

A group of researchers has been studying an ancient mystery of the cause of human happiness in the broad sense . The answer is not as we had expected . Maybe there will be the answer to success, good looks, wealth and so on. However, according to the study of the most decisive of human happiness is a relationship with a fellow or an intimate relationship .

Parrot raises a problem as follows: " If the relationship makes us so unhappy , why do so many relationships it difficult for us ? And, importantly , what can we do to keep ourselves calm , unyielding , and find a positive way out when we 're in a relationship that is demanding the impossible ones it ?

We yearn for a relationship that is certainly not a lot of demand means that naturally relationship raises a match. Everyone certainly covet it . But there also are experiencing a demanding relationship . Relationships are demanding can be seen clearly when we are at the expense of our feelings .

Then the solution is how ? We can make demanding the relationship for the better . Parrot says , " The effort you put into improving the difficult relationship is almost always fruitful vitality and strength within you . " According to Parrot benefits include:

  1. Reduced concerns .
  2. Mind clearer .
  3. A more positive outlook .
  4. Understanding more powerful in terms of effectiveness.
  5. Excellent physical health .
  6. Improve your relationship and make your life more enjoyable .

Now it depends on us and we do not need to lose contact with the people are demanding . It MIGHT seem difficult, but it never hurts to try. More Parrot conclude kinds of relationships are demanding , Among other things :

  1. Critics are always complaining and give advice that is not expected.
  2. Martyr , always the victims and suffer from self-pity.
  3. Vandal excitement , pessimistic and negative feeling with him.
  4. Bullies, totally insensitive to other people.
  5. Gossip , spreading gossip and leaking secrets .
  6. Controllers , can not give freedom and stop worrying .
  7. Internal enemy , really duplicity .
  8. The cool , stay away and avoid contact .
  9. Spiteful , full of malice .
  10. The volcano , generate steam and ready to explode .
  11. Sponge , always need , but never returned .
  12. Competitors , remembering every detail .
  13. Hard worker , always urgent and never feel satisfied .
  14. Tempter , satire harassing .
  15. The chameleon , always wanting to please others and avoid conflict .

From the list at the top of course we frequently interact with the kinds of people who like it . How to cope? Evade or compromising the feeling ? None of them are . Uniquely first solution provided by Parrot to make the relationship more demanding it becomes better is UNDERSTANDING people who have all the 15 types of relationships . Understanding other people is a door that must be opened first before we go deeper in a relationship. It's tough, but we are among those who like it . Learn in advance to understand the other person , even if the person never understand us . When understand others means we are ensuring that our relationships with other people and we became the happiest person in the world. Why? Because we can interact, work together , run a hobby and a lot of things with people who are impossible .