BODY LANGUAGE WHICH YOU NEED TO NOTE WHEN SPEAKING WITH SOMEONE

1. Do not cross your legs and arms.

Crossing your arms or legs can show that you are closed to the other person and this does not create a good conversation. Keep your hands and feet open always.

2. Make eye contact, but not looking at it.

By making eye contact on the other person you can make the conversation better and you can see if they are listening to you or not. But also not by staring at him continuously, because it will make your interlocutors become anxious.

3. Make the distance between your legs.

Giving the distance between the legs (not closed) either in a standing or sitting position indicates that you are quite confident and comfortable with your position.

4. Shoulder your shoulders.

When you feel tense, you will feel the tension in both your shoulders as well. Usually seen from the slightly raised shoulders position and forward to the front. Try to loosen the tension by moving your shoulders and backing back into position or leaning back.

5. Nod when the other person is talking.

Nodding indicates that you are indeed listening. But that does not mean you nodded excessively (continuously and quickly) like a woodpecker, because you will look like a fake.

6. Do not bend over, sit up straight.

Sitting bent indicates that you are not passionate, sit up, relax, not tense.

7. Lean the body, but not too much.

If you want to show that you are interested in what the other person is saying, lean your body slightly toward him.

If you want to show that you are confident enough and relaxed, lean your back slightly. But also do not be too inclined, because you will look arrogant.

8. Smile and laugh.

Be glad, not too serious. Relax, smile and even laugh if someone tells something funny. People will tend to listen to you if you are seen as a positive person.

9. Keep your head straight.

Do not look down when you talk to someone. You will look like you are uncomfortable talking to the other person and also look like an unconfident person.

10. Do not be in a hurry and do not be too slow.

This can apply to anything. You will look more calm and confident, you will also feel your stress level is reduced.

11. Avoid movements that indicate that you are anxious.

Like touching your face, wiggle your legs or tap your finger on the table quickly. Such movements indicate that you are nervous and may interfere with the other person's attention or the people you are talking to.

12. Effective use of your hands.

Use your hand to help explain what you are saying.

13. Do not stand too close.

A person who changes his or her position too closely to the other person may indicate that he is hiding something or has some purpose. In addition, of course, will make the interlocutor becomes uncomfortable. Keep always the 'privacy' between you and the other person.

Creating new habits requires a process. No need to try to do all at once because it will make you confused and tired.

Just focus on 2-3 body language that is your priority and fix it continuously for 2-3 weeks. After that time you will create a new habit. Then you can continue again for the next 2-3 body language.