The importance of father-daughter relationships

It is a very short post about how important father’s influence on their daughters future is.
Father is the first man in every girl’s life. He is her first (and often the only one) hero.
Fathers play the key role in forming of daughter’s self esteem, self worth and opinion of men.

Females, who experienced the absence of their fathers in their childhood , are more likely to face problems with building happy relationships in their adulthood. But just the presence of father is not enough. Let me give an example of wrong way of building father - daughter connection..
I was born in a full happy family. I was the first and wanted child. I was the girl, but I have never ever felt myself like a “little daddy’s Princes “.
My dad raised me like a boy and never allowed me to be small weak girl. He taught me to fight with boys from my kindergarten, was angry when I wanted to play Barbie or any other girls games.
“ If u play this silly games, you will be fool” he told me.
“ You are not a Princess , you are simple girl “ lol 😊
“ Women have no brain, so do you.” ☹
I remember at age of six my grandmother asked me if I want to go to school of dance. That was one of the best day in my life. My mum bought me a beautiful white dress and I proudly entered to the dance school.
“ Dance is fool. Dancing is pointless. You are a terrible dancer” admitted my father. ☹
Suddenly, I became ashamed of my dream being a dancer. I didn’t feel happy anymore in my dance studio. I gave up the dance school a year after.
“ Will you ever do something that benefits? “
“ You will never ever achieve anything in your life if you don’t.. “.
Somehow everything I started or wanted to do became wrong. Playing piano - no, drawing – no. Have any fears? – Your problems.
“ You will be eight years old and you still want to get a toy for your b’day? Are you silly? Choose something else “
Since that time I have tried to prove my dad that I was worthy. I tired to show that I am good enough to get his acceptance. But the worst part of it was that I started to feel like a boy. I hated wearing dresses (I was afraid to look too girly), I didn’t have any female friends , but I was a “ bro” among my boys. I felt not good enough for everyone. I didn’t see any beauty in me. I was sure that I must prove that I deserve some love. I was afraid to speak out my opinion and thoughts because I thought that they are silly.
The story is really long. There were many other issues when I was a teenager, had my first love and so on. But let’s stop. here

I suppose that my dad just tried to raise me as a strong, smart, confident woman. But the way he did it was completely wrong. At least for me.

So there some tips for father( especially who have little daughter) which I call 5 ways I would like my father used to treat me like:

1. Participate in her life. Be always there, doesn’t matter if she is one year old or twenty one. JUST SHOW HER that she always can have you.
2. Be her hero. Make her feel safe and protected.
3. Play with her. Barbie, mother - daughter, cooking , anything.Be a good friend for her
4. Always tell her that she is the best and the most.
5. Treat her the way you want other men teat her. Let her be your Princess 👸

In conclusion I would like to say that I am not complaining about my dad. All these things I had to go through made me the person I am today . I love my father , but he is not the “ daddy” I would have loved to have