RE: Would you turn down a potential partner because they don't make enough money?
I'm more concerned with their financial decisions than their annual income, personally. Someone can have a good income and make terrible financial decisions. I've made good financial decisions for the most part. My student loans are the only debt I have. Why would I voluntarily tie myself to someone who has made poor financial decisions and has destroyed their credit? My credit would be on the line for all major purchases. Heck if we were to get married, my credit ranking would actually drop. I don't want to be paying for someone else's dumb decisions, nor do I want my credit destroyed b/c everything would have to be in my name, on my credit, and the person has already proven they don't care about their own credit, like they're really going to care about mine more than they did their own? You can be poor and financially stable (which is me), and you can make over $100k per year and be up to your eyeballs in debt from bad decisions. I'm more worried about financial stability and making smart financial decisions than I am someone's overall income. Just my two cents.
absolutely love that statement! yeah financial decisions over income everytime. personally, when it comes to falling for some one, i don't really think about the money side, just work out the kinks and work with what you have, i have to admit i'm a bit romantic in the hope that things will just turn out of on the money side but that's because of years of living on little rather than gorging on it!
I'm probably far too logical for my own good sometimes. I'm one of those who believes that we completely control who fall in love with. We choose who we allow ourselves to get close to and attached to. I want to know these kinds of things before I choose whether to allow myself to get attached to someone or not. If you know certain things are going to be deal breakers for you, or are going to actually be a big problem in the future, why wouldn't you just avoid bringing that drama and heart ache on yourself and focus on finding someone you're more compatible with?
if that works for you, all power to you. i found that whenever i had drama in my life i eventually grew from it myself, i've found that people change, circumstances change, people grow apart, what if that person has money and then gradually don't, are you telling me you trade them in for another financial suitable partner as and when? - you can't always have all the data -- but then, what do i know. i'm just happy to be here on planet earth today with breakfast burritos and coffee! - i wish you the best in achieving relationship zen!