A BACHELOR'S DILEMMA
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Over the weekend, i met one of my friend again; a lady i crush on and i can't help to compare her with two other lady friends i like so dearly. One stays in the city the other is a college student and away in school. Dating is really shitty rusty business as it requires watching out for that person you love and planning ahead for the future, but it is a mandatory process very important to know some of the hidden attributes of your supposed to be mother of your kids. I am trapped in between three categories of women; The Working class, A college student and The Entrepreneur.
THE ENTREPRENEUR
Befriending a girl who does businesses, retails home-wares and other stuffs is good, maybe not so good. Two entrepreneurs but with different business line, in the downtime of our businesses; friends becomes momentarily foes each with a headache of loosing money or clients not paying in checks on time etc. The thoughts of a business minded lady is totally different from the other two categories i stated and i find myself in the middle of research/experiment greater than what i could comprehend. Each time we always have a fallout because my ideology of making money is in the other direction from her's and this is always causing a friction each time i am needed to support her new line of retailing...Pretty Tense yeah?
THE WORKING CLASS
This also is like a "word and it's opposite" friendship, thinking of someone for days working for someone else who literally have no time to check on her friends because she is busy making money for someone else is a complex case. While as startup business owner and an investor i have tried to compel her to start making money on her own through some investment(Most Especially in Cryptocurrencies) so she could be free from the bondage of long hours of working, with some of her savings in Alcoins she could realize a huge interest to start up her own line of work instead of her money laying fallow in Banks yielding tiny interest.
Too scared and too insecure about the volatile Blockchain, she always decline and all i was doing is to free her from this kind of city life so we could have more time together as friends. How does this form of friendship works when you only see once in two months? Of cause it would be insensitive of me to deprive her of the little time she has to rest from her 6-days a week work routine. In this part of the World, wages are not per-hour and employers takes full advantages of that, taking all the juice from their employees through longer hours of work- some get paid well for it and a host of others don't get paid well!
This individuals do not own their days, a life completely in contrast to running your own tiny business where you could make time for more important aspect of lives e.g friendship and love!
THE COLLEGE STUDENT
Dealing with someone who never experienced the Real World is much harder, no work experience or business experience. As young as i am. i have a little over ten years of work experience and over two years of running a startup business with some intermediate investment knowledge. So talking business or planning an investment and any other futuristic plans with her seems like i am dragging her into the Fifties!
Her interests are super active in getting good grades which is fantastic, latest fashion, entertainments and more expenses that never generates more income. As little as my investment Knowledge in Cryptocurrencies i do not spend above my investment interests in a month to check and balance my spending rate which has always caused a ruckus and making it hard keeping such a pretty college student as friends.
WHAT'S YOUR VERDICT?
Remember, this are all beautiful, good and fantastic lady friends which any could end up as my Plus 1 if things works out with any of them later on, keeping them as close friends is the major challenge as none of them rarely takes advice from my perspective. This different categories of women with different point of view are complicated cases for single men and the future plans of every friends matters whether they end up getting married or not, having a good and easy life remains the bone of contention.
This is a critical phase of friendship with the opposite sex, with a male like mine it is not a problem because both will end up been decision makers in their homes after getting settled. But with a woman, someone you care about and never want to take authoritative decisions on, who to manage this aspect of life requires tact.
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Truly a Bachelor's dilemma.
Hmm...This confirms the fact that no perfect woman exists.
Three things that could make or mar a marriage;
M=Money
S=Sex
C=Communication
Whom amongst them do you communicate with effectively? She might qualify for the final.
You ought to pray to God too for direction
Exactly.
Very articulate brother, this is just a non committed Studying and friending stage but Prayer matters most.
Oh I have missed your posts greatly, this is indeed a bachelor's dilemma, from what I can observe you need someone who can help build your dreams even as a married man. You need someone who can also support you, so it's between the first two, I would advise you start up a relationship first, by then anyone of them can comprise and see things in your perspective. All the best capt, I truly wish you the best.
Also communication is vital in marriage. Check which one suits this category.
Thanks Sweetone, just a twist to so many Crypto and Techie blogs, so i decided to do a life lesson post today😎
My dear brother, be like Solomon
He asked of only one thing and he became wise.
He got himself wives and concubine( but ignore this part). Lol
Lol. oga @oluwoleolaide. why did you have 3 choices in the first place. see your eyes roaming upandan! that's how you will get confused in choosing. Please make your choice be based on Ability to learn and forgive truly. My opinion sha. take care!
It says Friends and not Choices!
I believe a good friend will make a good wife...Ability to learn and forgive truly doesn't apply in this case of Business and planning for the future i suppose.
Go with the one you could stay without communication and sort of understand each other.
Hmmmmm
That's deep but makes sense, but you know once kids starts coming then the story changes yeah?
Great work
This is very interesting one dear one. Never knew you guys go through tough time as this in choosing your women.
But I feel you should go for one that support you but you should be willing to support her too. Crytos might not be the way for everyone though. So its good you follow your heart as well and make good choice as we are talking about someone you are about to spend the rest of your life with.
I really wish you well and pray you find your better half.
It's really a bachelor's dilemma. Nobody is perfect but love conquers all no matter her occupation