Multiple Marriages and Divorced or Widowed Marriages are Right for us ?

rakibofficial (53)in #life • 7 years ago

Discussing more than one marriage and divorced or widowed marriage :-

Marriage as divorced or widowed women, such as a Sunnah. Likewise polytheism is also another Sunnah. But in our society, these two Sunnahs are today seen as neglected and persuasive. What's the reason?

The verse most commonly referred to with the topic of polygyny is Verse 3 of Surah 4 (An-Nisa [Women]). A translation by SAHIH INTERNATIONAL is shown below:

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَىٰ فَانكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَاثَ وَرُبَاعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا - 4:3

And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].

— Qur'an, Sura 4 (An-Nisa), Ayah 3
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In a society where polygamy is hardened, the mentality of not marrying widowed women among men of the society is created.

Who is the most affected in this problem? Women? Or male? In fact, the elderly men do not have much problem in the next marriage. But in most cases the victim is divorced or divorced women. Because alaradi is the mentality of not marrying widowed women among men. And in the case of polygamy, women are completely uncompromising.

If one of these women is still a widow or divorced, then unmarried men do not come forward, and if married men want to come forward, they will again face obstruction from their wives. What is the result? One class female beneficiary and another woman suffered here. In other words, because of class women, another class of women suffers from suffering.

Although it is normal for a woman to accept her husband's second wedding, it is difficult, but considering the overall aspect of society, accepting the effect of the loss of acceptness is more than the pain. Therefore, society should accept compliance with those women considering it. In this case, one person's self-sacrifice is a mercy for another. Again, if a single unmarried man comes forward in this regard, he has faced the obstacles in his case, but he also faces obstacles in his family, especially the mother, sister and the other.

The man who was known to me, went ahead to marry a widowed woman. But his mother and his family cried out to this proposal for his family. S: This is your tastes. If you have so many girls, you will marry a widow! "Some women in her family did not spare even if she was a teaser who says" secondhand ". The man did not last long

But the other victim's girl was forced to accept more difficult because of other class women. Those who have been ridiculous today, if they are again in trouble, they are victims of another class. This way the naughty circle of suffering is going on.

So what is the solution? Islam has long ago resolved. We made it difficult. But there is a lot of relief from everyone's position and if you give up a bit, then such a big problem can be solved.

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A girl might think that why would I allow my husband to get married second? An unmarried boy may think that I am a single boy, so to stay so unmarried, why would I marry a divorced or widowed woman? A mother might think that why would I marry my unmarried son to a divorced or widowed girl? A sister might think that why would I marry my single virgin to a divorced or widowed woman? Everyone is thinking this way today. But the solution is not coming. Rather the issue is getting tougher than the hardships, and the sufferings of the victims are increasing.

We needed to think that this world is temporary for all. Nobody is free from this temporary. For a woman to accept husband's second marriage as a test, so to judge for a man, justice is possible between them.

Generally there are more women than men. Abortion in girls is still very low in Muslim society, as it is seen in other religions in India or in other countries. Moreover, it is obviously forbidden. If this shocking thing is not among other religions, then there are more women in it. Men should take responsibility for the increased women, and women should understand it.

It is not the matter of polygamy that everybody in society has to do. On the basis of the ratio of men and women, where some capable men are really resolved in this regard. And it is also a duty of men to take additional women's responsibilities and women should understand it too. Because the victims are not the men here, but the real victims suffer the situation. But today we have made it difficult.

Today the woman is preventing her husband from marrying, do not Allah, if her husband dies, she is suffering from tomorrow. Tomorrow his marriage depends on the wishes of another man's wife, or on the consent of his mother, sister. Today, sister is preventing her brother from marrying, do not Allah, if she is a widow or divorced, she is suffering from tomorrow. Tomorrow his marriage depends on the wishes of the wife of another man, or on the consent of his mother, sister. Today the mother is preventing her son from marrying this marriage, do not Allah, if she is divorced or divorced tomorrow her husband also suffered. Tomorrow his daughter's marriage depends on the wishes of another man's wife, or on the consent of his mother, sister. That means it is understood, the beneficiary of today, the day he suffered.

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Number and context of multiple marriages

Statistics show that according to natural law, women are always more than men in numbers. Women get more and more. Women have more resistance to men than men. As a result, their mortality rate is low. The number of males due to multi-various, including war, mill-factory and road accident. There are more women. According to the census report of the year 2017, about 8 crore 1.2 million 77 thousand women and 7 crore 9.7 million 19 thousand men in the total population of Bangladesh. Average of men and women is 102: 100.

Poll results:

A man will take a female partner. How many more women will be left out of their lives? How will their biological demand fill up? One of the possible three methods can accept one.

Maybe they have to live unmarried lives. In this case, the life of the deprived life of biological and financial rights will be dragged to their death.
Abusive or prostitution. In this case, the rights of children, rights and legal rights of women should be denied.
Someone's second wife will be entitled to the right of life through a husband, children, respect and social dignity. Anyone conscientious will be forced to say, the third method in these three ways is sustainable, honorable. And Islam gives approval to the second marriage to implement humanity and human rights.