Dealing With Faultfinders

in #life7 years ago

Criticism are sharper than double-edged swords and more lethal than poison. They are supposed to be objective comments but in our society 'criticisms' can also be mean 'faul-finding'. The result of which can trigger negative results.

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In workplace, it can result to low morale, inefficiency and possibility of future conflicts. Your boss constantly nagging you in front of people, your co-workers snickering at your new hairstyle or your bestfriend dismissing your suggestions as nonsense. This could plunge you into a depressing mood for days.

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Sometimes, when criticisms are destructive, even smart, sensible confident persons msy crumble or cry when attacked by fault finders.

Fellow steemians, here are some things you are to consider on how to deal with faultfinder!


  • Remember that commentsof your critic may be right or wrong. If the comments are wrong, why fret? If the accusation is correct, just remind yourself that nobody is perfect and this is an opportunity for growth.

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  • Admit your mistake if there is one and start from there. If your late at work admit it and say sorry. Then start reporting for work a bit earlier.

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  • Don't think of hitting back or you will only escalate hurt and uncomfortable feelings. Just smile and follow the smart 'in-one-ear-out-the-other' rule.

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  • Instead of lashing out at the person who criticized you, ask him to suggest some positive points that could help you improve. If you get affected by his snide remarks at your being overweight, say: "Perhaps you know of a diet or exercise?!"

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  • His suggestion will be to everyone's advantage. If he doesn't have one, nicely tell him to shut up. But hey, why get affected in the first place if you're happy with the way you are?

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  • Don't invite abuse. You are likely to become an object of contemp if your self-confidence is low and if you always attempt to please everybody.

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  • If you want to receive positive criticisms, give out the same. Give three sincere compliments a day and notice how your life will change.

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  • Despite the criticisms hurled at you by your detractors, continue doing the best you can on the job and keep doing the right thing. Always ask yourself: "Are the comments worth my depression and pain?"

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People who have nothing to say or do will always say the worst. But you have a choice: you can either wage a war or just stay cool, calm and in control.

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Thanks for reading and have a nice day!


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thanks 😊 steem on!

Constructive criticism must have space in our life for a better version of ourselves... 👌👌👌

Indeed, but we must also consider one's feeling when we criticize.

Stay out of toxic people! hehe.