A good amount has changed around steemit while you were gone. Some for the good, some still unclear, and some for the worse. Overall I'd say it's better now then before...but each has their own perspective on that.

Sorry you were having a hard time. Know how that can go, been there. You are correct as long as negative experiences aren't allowed to define us then we can move forward with life. It becomes something to look back upon and realize that we are stronger then we realize and the next time we have experience to draw from. Stay strong!