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RE: Have you ever felt invisible as if you don't belong anywhere?
I'm coming to the conclusion that nobody really likes small talk. People instead use it as a shield to hold other people at bay until they prove themselves trustworthy enough (or perhaps interested enough) to move on to medium talk, if not big talk. It might be worth the awkwardness of small talk if you have the chance to make a new friend. It's astonishing where genuine interest in another person can lead the conversation.
But of course, sometimes you just ain't got time for that, or you just don't gel with people, and that's totally cool too. :)
I know, people use it to start a "real" conversation. But i prefer to skip that part and directly go to the real conversation. But i am myself not a big talker and only talk when i have something valuable to say or when i have an important question. I also don't feel like making new friends in real life I guess, after finding out that in my past many people misused me. Friendship should be from the heart, helping eachother. Not only when you need someone. I helped friends in the past, but when i needed them, i couldnt knock on their door. Its sad, but its the truth.
People can indeed be disappointing. I understand your desire to protect yourself from further hurt. Thanks for your response to my barging in on your comment!