Perfectionism - the belief that one has to be absolutely perfect in everything he or she does_ afflicts the thinking of many youths.
Says the books perfectionism- what's bad about being too good?: "There's a big different between the healthy pursuit of excellence and the unhealthy striving for an impossible ideal. People who strive for excellence may have a strong need for order and organization and high expectations for themselves, but they also accept their own mistakes and have positive ways of coping.
...perfectionists, on the other hand, live in a constant state of anxiety about making errors. They have extremely high standards."
Does that describe you? If your standards are impossibly high,you can easily become immobilized. You may find that you avoid doing anything new.or you may tend to put off doing important things because you are afraid you will fail. You may even feel inclined to reject anyone who fails to meet your standards,and you may find yourself friendless.
Why should you cause desolation to yourself?" Yes, a perfectionist can " cause desolation" to himself! In fact, perfectionism has even been linked to such life a threatening eating disorders as an orexia nervosa and bulimia
How can I stop trying to be perfect? You may therefore ask .admittedly,changing one's thinking in this regard can be done.