It sure surprised me! ;-}

I think it was good for me to have learned to live on my own, be happy with my own company and not be looking for a partner to "complete" me. And it did take some adjusting. Like learning that the only reason he went dancing was to meet women. Once we were married he didn't see any reason to go dancing anymore. I went dancing because I love to dance! So that was something we had to sort out.
But we were compatible in the important ways - we liked the same amount of garlic and hot spices in our food and visiting old book stores!

Our society may seem to embrace shallow relationships, perhaps more now than back in 'my day' but it was similar then too. I promise that the right one for you won't be interested in that kind of relationship. They will want what you want (mostly!). Remember the person you are looking for is also looking for you and wondering where you are!