Love at first sight or recognition at first sight?

in #love7 years ago

It has actually surprised me to find out not so long ago that many people don't even believe in the thing called 'Love at First Sight'. I've had such 'love' happen several times to me in my life, and I always thought that it's a very natural thing.

First I fell in love this way when I was in the 9th grade. I was sitting on a bench near the school's exit and a hallway to the kitchen block when she came out sweeping the floor with a broom (It's a thing we have in Russian schools - each day a new group of pupils does the casual daily cleaning up . Don't worry it's not child labour :) Just teaches children to be responsible). As she came out of the hallway, I had the time slow down on me while my whole focus was set on her only. She was a blonde wearing a white shirt and a black skirt. As it turned out she was in the 11th grade and was about 2-3 years older than me. Due to stammering I used to have from the age of 5 I never pulled myself to talk to her about it. Also the fact that she was always with her no less beautiful redhead friend didn't help me either. 

I've fallen in love quite a handful of times but the other instance of me experiencing the love at first sight happened several years ago when I was going up the stairs to my apartment and she was going up too just in front of me. I don't think that it's her hot body that got my whole attention - it could've been any other hot chick but it just had to be that one... Anyway, we went further up and I got a bit curious that she turned and went into the same corridor as me. She went past my apartment and... all of my racing dreams got dissolved as soon as she ringed the bell of the apartment where I knew lived a single, as I then thought, man with a dog. I managed to suppress my feelings of love and forgot about her. I've seen that girl several times after, including the moment when there was three of them - her, the man and her brunette friend. In several years, at the end of October, I was exiting my apartment and I saw her again in the corridor walking out of that same door. We walked together down the stairs and when I opened and held the front door for her she said "Thank you!". As she did so my eyes met hers and I fell for her again. To be honest I had so much to think about during the years and that day, that I didn't recognize her right away. But when I remembered I couldn't think about anything else but her for the whole month of November. I don't think it's appropriate to give all the details but the story has both good and bad ending at the same time. It's a bad ending because I was kind of right all those years ago -they are romantically involved. It gets worse for, as it rather surprisingly turned out, that man has a wife and a little child who live in a city located hundreds of kilometers away from Moscow. And while they're away he's having 'fun'. Once I realized the truth my feelings of love disappeared - just like I thought they would if I would discover the worst. The good ending for me is that this whole episode snapped me out of my long lasting depression I had been having, and now I look at life and things with a much more clear and open mind. I've become more peaceful.

There's a lot to talk about concerning this topic and unearthed truths, but I would like to end this little story with this question - what is the reason for such 'love at first sight' to exist? Yes, some people are lucky to have the object of their love feel the same love for them. But it often happens that the feeling is not mutual. Perhaps not many know, or even believe, about reincarnation, but from my life experience I know that we do live many lives. And when I was pulling my thinning hairs out unable not to be thinking about that girl, I tried the best I could to make sense of all the situation and why of all the girls it had to be that one. On the internet I found the term 'Recognition at first sight', meaning that you recognize that person from your previous life - perhaps you used to be a family, close friends or lovers. And in this life they unconsciously, so to say, help you with what you have to learn here and now, even if that 'help' means you will never even share a word in the current life span. 

I would be interested to know your experience with this phenomenon of love at first sight. Also what do you think about the recognition at first sight? Have you ever considered the possibility that you've met that person long before you were born?

Thank you for your interest!

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