Difference between Infatuation and Love!!!

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GOOD DAY Steemians family and friends, I welcome you to my page and I am sharing with you today “Difference between Infatuation and Love


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  • INFATUATION can be defined as the state of being carried away completely by unreasoning passion or addictive feeling or love.

  • LOVE can be defined as a feeling or affection that is uncontrollable and unconditional.


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When you are in love, you will have intense feelings for a guy or girl and be attracted and connected to him/her on the level of mind, body and soul.

Infatuation in other word can be called “Lust” it’s usually fleeting of sexual desire that always end up in heartbreak because it has nothing to do with love but craves for just physical affection.

Facts that differentiate Infatuation from love are;

  • Infatuation doesn’t have anything to do with love and it usually end up in heart break

  • It usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship when sexual attraction is central.

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  • Love is about having knowledge of what the other person desires so much in life and working on compromising. It’s not about satisfying your needs and expectations solely.

  • Love is confident. You feel safe and secure in your relationship and understand that they are ups and downs and forget to do things together once in a while. You don’t get scared or panic at the first sign of frown because of a forgotten phone call or text messages because you know that your bond with your partner isn’t going to break easily because of that.

While growing up I always thought infatuation is a part of love. I thought they complemented each other until I experienced both and discovered that they can’t be compared to one another. There are so many people who are convinced that they’re in love with a particular person just because he/she is amazing and they can’t stop thinking about the person, but the truth is most of the time the intensity that comes with really liking or have a feeling for someone is not love — it’s infatuation

Love in a relationship isn’t about some things you feel you "Should" do.

Although there are no expectations or limitations set to love someone perfectly but Infatuation gives the impression that to love unconditionally is a difficult thing to do.

True love really does love without trying to change the other person, sometimes love sucks, and It’s this intimidating uphill battle of understanding how to make sacrifices and how to be selfless without losing the sense of who you are.

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When you are infatuated with someone, you create unrealistic expectations about how they should behave and how the relationship should go.

Being infatuated with someone is frustrating and draining! You are constantly worried about what they think. You are obsessed over what they are doing and whether or not they are as obsessed as you are. You think about him/her, dream about him/her, worry about him/her, cry over him/her, sometimes even scared of loosing him/her and stress out about everything whenever you think things are not going smoothly between both of you.

Love doesn’t drain your energy like that. It usually charge up and renew your energy. That’s because you are in a higher energy state, where love, appreciation, and happiness are, and they are not harmful nor draining to your energy, they make you feel awesome and joyful about yourself. Negative states, such as jealousy, confusion, or fear, take a lot of energy to manifest and go through, and that’s why they drain you.

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5 WAYS TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN INFATUATION AND LOVE

  • Infatuation is being in love with the thought of someone. Love is being in love with who the person really is.

  • Infatuation is never contented with one person(Polygamous). Love is monogamous.

  • Infatuation thinks love should always be fun and perfected. Love knows it’s not always going to be smooth, but it doesn’t matter.

  • Infatuation grows with selfish desires. Love is patients and grows with true friendship.

  • Infatuation makes you insecure and vengeful. Love makes you a better person.

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  • INFATUATION PROVOKES JEALOUSY; if someone talks to the person you are with, you become instantly irritated, upset, jealous and sometimes overreacted, You want to show off to everyone, including the person you are infatuated with that he/she is yours. Thats another sign of infatuation

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  • INFATUATION CAN CAUSE UNNECESSARY ARGUMENTS AND DRAMATIC ;
    If your relationships is dramatic instead of loving, then you are probably projecting a lot of intense feelings towards your partner and your relationship, or holding a lot of high expectations over their head or yours. That’s another horrible sign of infatuation.
    Drama happens when there is a lack of love in the relationship. Love is tender, respectful and sweet, not sadden or dramatic. You don’t blow up at someone you love and make them feel worthless or useless about themselves. You don’t treat someone you love badly because you feel they’ve hurt you. You don’t talk about someone you love behind their back badly (negatively) and then treat them amazingly (in person) whenever they are present. But, if you are infatuated, and have a insecure feelings towards him/her, then anger and drama are sure to be present in your relationship.

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  • CONCLUSION ; Infatuation is about being connected to someone because of their physical appearance. But, when tough times surfaced and you couldn’t find what connects you with them anymore, You quickly disconnected yourself from the person, and you crave-less for his/her attention or concern.

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    When you are in love, You know the person is there for you at anytime. You have a connection. Both of you are a team. You both work through issues, both in your relationships and in your individual lives, None of you will ever feel alone because both of you know the person who loves you will always be there for one another.

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    - PERSONAL ADVICE ; Quit getting attached or attracted to anyone because of he/she physical appearance, it leads nothing but heartbreak. 😪😢😭

Thank y’all for taking your time to read my blog today 🔥🔥 God bless 🙏

Peace ✌️ 


@geeflow 💪

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Very fascinating and educative and interesting. Thank you for sharing bro. Don't forget to share it to Facebook and invite friends to this platform.

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I think Infatuation is more superficial but Love is whats inside, Love is permanent, the other one is temporary.

Woah! This is beautifully and realistically written! My first love was a case of infatuation! I was attached in all ramification and obsessive! Thank God i knew the thin line between infatuation and love earlier and decided to thread carefully. In all, you have said it all well.. Keep steeming awesomely! Resteemed!

Thanks my super crush ♥️ God bless you

good write up, I must confess, I just broke up a relationship that I was attracted to her because of her beauty and physical appearance. In as much that I knew that the feeling is not about her character, I still went on to befriend her knowing fully well, it is because of her appearance. I just got saved when I broke the relationship with her. Thanks a lot

Infatuation looks more like fantasy or lust.
While Love is in itself a being, a deity.... God.

Very good post @geeflow. Thank you for sharing! Just remember that love can also begin with infatuation and that it is possible to be attracted at first to the looks. But then it should progress from being in love to love and that is the true test. If it progresses, it is true love, if the initial infatuation wears off and there is nothing left, it is not true love.
My only critique is that you did not put in any scripture or reference to christianity or God. You could have easily include that as you put this post in flaminghelpers under christianity posts only.

I will work harder on that ma’am, thank you for enlightening me, God bless you ma’am

Wow! So nice a write up. Great job my friend, please keep it up.

Most love are not love but mere infatuation.this is educating thanks

Really facinating,infatuation is not really love.you can be infatuated to someone but yet no love.thanks for this inspiring post

Infatuation is being in love with the thought of someone. Love is being in love with who the person really is.
This is awesome
Lovely post. Love is being real. Ability to express yourself. Thanks for educating us.