RE: A Guide for Men: How to Make Sex Not Awkward
Couldn't have said it better myself, this is seriously perfectly put. I had an extremely awkward encounter, literally JUST the other day... And this is the first time I have made mention of it to anyone, for that matter. It's stupid that I like the guy even though he was begging for sex, nearly the entire time we were alone together. I just kept telling him no, and told him he was going to piss me off if he kept advancing on me. He did not end up getting what he wanted. And it's not even to say that I am not attracted to the guy, I just didn't wanna give myself away SO easily. I figured, yeah, there's plenty of time for that if he is actually into me and not just bullshitting, right?! I don't feel bad about this choice, either. I stood my ground and made sure that I honoured myself as best as I could!! He was sure cuddly, though, once we both finally chilled out! Thanks for posting this extremely relevant, wonderful post~
I get that it's frustrating when you're both not on the same page. I think people just shouldn't have expectations and focus on getting to know each other, when people expect sex is when feelings get hurt and boundaries crossed. I'm glad that you kept your cool and didn't give in - I know how difficult that can be especially when you don't want to disappoint someone. I hope you two have a better experience next time if you decide to keep hanging out!
That's really all I wanted from any guy that's tried anything with me in the past year. I just wanted to actually be asked on a f***ing date for once, you know what I mean? Like, why do they have to push for that? Sometimes I actually convince myself that romance is dead :O But I mean, there's gotta be something worth it out there, right?! I honestly felt so damn cornered... I do hope for a better experience if we hang out again, too! But if not, I mean... at least I haven't seen him in years before this, and it won't affect my life too much from these recent encounters... Or so I think now, anyways...
And to clarify, I fully acknowledge that women do these things to men too. Hell, whatever you identify with, I'm sure we've all experienced something pretty messed up in this area~