FIRST SEXUAL INTERCOURSE (Defloration)
many women, who can be said to be sexually experienced do not find direct finger stimulation of their clitoris exciting or arousing. On the contrary, it deflates the rising build up of sensual tension.
By way of introduction, i usually start my post especially on this series with a statement that is somewhat less agreeable to the generally acceptable idea.
No doubt there are women who will vehemently say that this is 'total bull shit' , yes i agree. On the other hand, there are many women who wouldn't want your hand down there, they feel that the finger is in a place where it doesn't belong. To them, anything other than the erect phallus is a foreign object. In as much as i do not totally agree with them in this wise 'considering that the hand can also do wonders', one cannot overlook the fact that they are not entirely wrong.
Different strokes for different folks
What will you say to the case of a woman, who to simply whisper words of endearments in her ear is a put off, to say nothing of holding the earlobe with the lips, licking her ear with the tongue or blowing hot sensual air into it. To her it is a distraction that she can do without.
To get back to our main subject, inexperienced woman, it is not a bad idea to engage in body kisses, this may serve as an invaluable help in bringing her to a state of excitement and high simulation that may make her to give tell perceptible or imperceptible signs that she is ready for penetration.
There are women who are 'virgins only in the body'. By this i mean one who has had much experience short of actual defloration, full use can be made of body kisses to ready her.
In my previous post on this series, i have councelled caution regarding exposure of the husbands nakedness to his inexperienced bride or the man ordering his bride to undress before him during their first night. I want to add that great caution needed to be taken regarding the most intimate kinds of kiss. The bridal night may not be the right time, unless the man and woman have had such experience and are aware of its usefulness to employ it at an early stage.
This still brings me to an earlier point I made regarding trying it out otherwise known as 'deep petting' prior marriage, this will provide greater freedom possible for both parties.
Young men especially those who wish to get married to a virgin do want to enquiry as to the best method of affecting defloration. Authorities have it that, the usual position is the most likely to be adopted by the couple, with the woman laying on her back, while the man introduces his penis into the vagina.
They further stated that there my2be difficulty in effecting defloration. If at the first attempt, the woman's membrane is not ruptured, the effort should not be repeated. The next night or much later will suffice.
If a man finds himself in a situation as described above, he should know that he is not called upon to make exceptional efforts to ensure rupturing of hymen. That may produce fear or nervous strain in his woman, and so set up such acute fears that future pleasure in intercourse will be gravelly prejudiced.
it should be noted that the woman can assist the man in Defloration of herself.
To Be Continued
If you are interested in my work, these are the links to other posts on this series.
first sexual intercourse (the wooing)
first sexual intercourse (masterly touch)
first sexual intercourse "nakedness"
first sexual intercourse "short member"
first sexual intercourse "chance remark II"
first sexual intercourse "chance remark"
first sexual intercourse
#DISCLAIMER
I AM NOT AND EXPERT NOR AN AUTHORITY LICENCED TO TEACH OR PREACH SEX. ON THE CONTRARY, I AM SIMPLY AN INDIVIDUAL WHO IS FACINATED WITH THE VERY IDEA OF SEX AND ALL THAT IS NEEDED TO BE KNOWN. (IT IS MY BELIEVE THAT EVERY MAN OR WOMAN, WHO HAS WARM BLOOD FLOWING THROUGH HIS OR HER VAINS AND SINEWS SHOULD BE EQUALLY INTERESTED ABOUT THE SUBJECT OF SEX).