Is love possible?

The purpose of this paper is to explore whether love is possible, because in the current era, not only everyone may encounter doubts or even abandonment of love in their own life, but also some people say love is going to die on the whole. The love described in this article refers more to a form of life that is common to human beings, which includes marriage, not only that kind of emotion.

In the first part, I will list several common doubts about love. In the second part, I will list some possible responses to these questions. Finally, I will talk about my own views.

1. People are essentially lonely and human beings are essentially estranged, so it is difficult for people to understand each other.
   This is the possibility of questioning love from the point of view of human nature, which is generally agreed by most people in the modern world. Everyone is an independent individual. He has his own experience, memories, personality, hobbies, looks, strengths and emotions. Although there are restrictions of universal ideas, a person is himself after all. In this way, arising out of the nature is human reasoning is estrangement, because each person is a person toward you, deepest and most enduring things are very difficult for the perception of other people, but also a natural barrier between people to their inherent distance is not inherent to perceive other people's driving force. Since it is difficult for others to perceive and understand other people's inner feelings, why is love possible if there is a congenital gap between people?

Many couples together can not realize the understanding of the partner, many people in the late with understanding of frustration in heart breaking up, because they found a partner turned out to be such a person, "so, regret past doings"? This is probably the most common reason for lovers to break up.

A popular saying is that one likes another person, he likes not the man itself, but the imagination of the man. This kind of imagination is from itself rather than to the other side, which seems to explain the illusion of love.

If love is the two soul tied together, "said Bi Pingsheng, Andhra Pro seats, and if it cannot achieve, not what a soul mate, only strange bedfellows words, then this is fundamentally rejected the possibility of love.

1. It's just sex.
   Sex is the basic factor of love, and it is probably impossible for anyone to avoid, and the love of no sex is a problem. The key is how much sex is in real love life. Some people think that it is not just a hidden foundation, but a theme of love life.

In the former modern West, the accusation of sexual desire is mainly towards women. In the modern world, this accusation turns to men. "Men are lower body." If one of their lovers only in relation to the time is warm, but in everyday life but she don't care about, be neither hot nor cold, no romance, no sweet. Like this, I'm afraid most people can't agree that this is love.

Even though other people's performance of sexual desire is not so obvious, it's just a cover up. The essence of love is still the thing that is hard to say.

If so, what is love?

1. You can't meet someone you really like and you can't be together.
   When many people explain why they are still single, the answer is similar to "not having met the right". But the question is, since you haven't met all the time, why are you sure you can meet it later?

Every day, as long as you go out of the house, you will pass by. It can not be said that in such a situation will meet the right person, because it is only a human appearance, because we do not understand that person. May see to his eyebrows, but this is only a kind of aesthetic activity, or, if the starting point is not so noble, just look at a "full fat". The latter is never like, but the former is just a favorite phantom. A brave person will go to ask for a way of contact, or, on one occasion, he will have a chance to get in touch with a pleasant person by chance, so that opens the first step to know that person. Next, perhaps no results, could go to the palace of love, but as mentioned before, in the process of mutual understanding, and may become bored down upon them and never dissipated the clouds, many lovers parted.

But many people do not have the opportunity to have strong favor, and even know each other, the people also love their probability is high? Life, hidden unrequited love and love, than love have surfaced.

Lovers have come from strangers, but there are huge ravines in the process. It's always a little bit of a chance that two people who really like each other and don't have to do it all the time. If the occurrence of love is only a small probability event, it is only in novels and TV dramas, so what can it be thought that love is possible?

1. The experience of love in the world
   This is a combination of third points, and the front is about the experience of man to himself, and here is the experience of his own world. We can see that many couples who have been together for many years, though the relationship is harmonious, the reason why they are together is not the love between them, but also they can't see any love in their daily life. The high divorce rate also reveals this. Is a failed marriage just an indication of the unmeasurable love?

Do not say marriage, even if it is a love in the campus, it seems that the two people love each other, and the simple love together, is not so beautiful. The seemingly intimate lovers, many of them considered unsuitable by others. Some lovers often quarrel with each other. Some people have changed a couple of men and women in a row. Although some people are in love, they look to others or be pursued by others. These unsettled situation is obviously not conducive to love, it seems that love is only a process, love on your way, but always can not catch.

1. Love is not a necessity

The trend that cannot be ignored is that more and more people do not want to get married. Many of them are not just rejecting marriage, but also away from love. They think that one's life is good, or that friends and friends are enough. The reason this may happen: rational thought love is not desirable; for some reason there is fear of the emotion of love; that they don't have to love others; prior experience of trauma; single for many years, lose confidence; perhaps the most important thing is people's sense of independence.

Such a person is not many, but after all, love is not something that everyone will yearn for. It is not universal, so love can not be said to be possible.

1. Marriage is the grave of love

This view holds that love is a hot romance while marriage is a cold reality, but modern society is forced to bind them together, which makes love gradually suffocating in plain days.

Another well-known argument is that after a certain age of marriage is the "daily necessities daily necessaries tea", which means that love comes to a certain stage of its self disappeared, into the family. If love can't accompany lovers together and go to dust together, if love is just "agitation" in youth, this will also give a great discount to the status of love.

Remember when three do a Chinese college entrance examination questions of reading, it is about a female scientist's reportage, which wrote she visited sick in bed husband, the article did not "husband" or "lover, but with loved ones". Although I already understand this truth, but I couldn't help very much puzzled, asked a "side of romance" friends all day for their love of confusion he lightly said "it is so ah."

So people who believe in love are still the same, and few of them may deny that love will go to this step sooner or later. It is just a prelude to the family, when love into the marriage, people reach a certain age, love will disappear, we are pursuing, but only a dream.

TWO. Defend

1. The power of love transcends the boundaries between man and man

The answer to the first question can have two directions, namely, recognition or non recognition.

As far as this proposition is concerned, there are several possible answers. First, even if people are essentially lonely, even if people are essentially estranged between people, this does not prevent love from being in the bottom of everyone's heart. From the view of broad sense, we take the initiative to participate in the communication with others, which is of this world and drive their love; from the relatively narrow angle, there are always some people who will win our love, we are willing to exchange or intercourse with her, this is love drives. Loneliness and love are two internal tendencies, which can make our life possible. Second, because of the loneliness of human nature, so people can have rich connotation, and it is this rich inner makes love possible, because the inner perception of love, love makes people know, know how to love each other, and the inner is attracting us to love. Third, because of the loneliness of human nature, people have hope to communicate with others, so they don't feel lonely, this desire in the reverse narrow the distance between people, and a little bit of bridging the gap between people and people, although this gap may not be fully cross. Fourth, even if there is an estrangement between people, people can't really understand this person. But can we know love completely after knowing a person? Perhaps a mystery banzhebanyan to attract us, and this is the source of love emotion; perhaps it is due to not fully understand, life is not dull as ditch water.

As far as this proposition is concerned, man is not alone in nature, or in nature it is not estranged. In this way, love is logical, because we are not only able to understand others, but also desire to combine with others. So why don't you admit them? This is more not a question that can be argued, but a position. Besides, there are not many people who hold this attitude.

2, sex and love

Answer the questions of sex and love, to distinguish between two kinds of attitude, is a kind of physiological materialism, that love is only; another is the empirical formula, that many people in the daily performance reflects the essence of the lower body animal ", making their love had a sense of disillusionment.

Answer the first one first. Suppose it is right, that is, love is sex, but it can not deny love in this way, because its implicit premise is that sex is evil and bad, but contrary to the judgement of most people, that is, sex is at least harmless or even beautiful. It is wicked, or paranoid, or by the ascetic religion and traditional ethics conservative influence is very deep, or for sex addiction can not extricate themselves so to take non rational attitude, for the Baidu "ring color" religion, we don't have to ignore. It can be said that these people are anti human, because sex is a part of human's inherent body structure. Opposition is to disintegrate oneself, oppose itself and oppose the inherent thing. So, since sex is not evil, it is beautiful or at least harmless, even if it makes love, then love can still be beautiful. And because sex is human nature, then the pursuit of love is also human nature, then love is of course possible.

But some people still do not meet this blatant physiological materialism, they think that although constitute a part of the love, but it is hidden in love, love is romantic, sweet and beautiful, couples caring, considerate care constitute love subject, it can be free and of. The pure love in primary and middle school is just like this. The lovers immersed in hand holding hands often do not reach sexual agreement or even sexual action in common topics. This answer accuses some people of exaggerating and surrendering their sex.

Then answer the next one. Love life, not only have a public occasion under the sweet and romantic side, but also in the private space is intimate sexual side, "half animal" the accused may overstate the latter, some characteristics and this exaggerated also cast the blame. It is part of human nature, in love in the criticism that all people just cover the extent of this nature, but nature is nature, but most people don't see so much, or not so pessimistic, they focus only on the daily performance. If one partner just about sex is warm, everyday life is indifferent, this is his problem, he is too self indulgence without restraint, perhaps such people should cut apart; and a competent partner should be the same enthusiasm, it will not lead to lower body the animal of the accused, will not endanger the foundation of love.

3, the fate will come

Some people feel sorry for the world when they are "unable to meet the real likes". Some people are optimistic about where they are from, though they have been single for a long time. "Why can't you meet?" Be confident and young, the days are long. Is the reality cruel, or is the world still lovely?

Self confidence is almost inherent in self-confidence, which includes self-confidence in appearance and ability, and optimism and love for the world, which depends on their personality. Most people believe in fate, but whether the fate is coming or when to come is unknown. Be optimistic about their future, but also the subjective and objective facts of their own ideas, fate comes is to have no relevance. What we think is just that we use it to comfort ourselves. A statistical probability from a sociological perspective may be a way to deal with the possibility that a person will encounter an event that he thinks is a "fate". However, the confident people think that they are within the probability, and the unconfident will think that in addition to the probability, the old problem is old or the old.

The problem seems to be unsolved. Perhaps it can only be refuted from the perspective of one's advantages and disadvantages, that is, believing that oneself will have more advantages than do not believe in oneself. First, we will act positively, only if we act, can we have good results. Second, life will be more hopeful and happier.

Some people think that they will never meet their fate again. They may be based on someone who has missed their favorite before, but now they think they will never meet such a person again. But once again encounter the fate, they will forget the worries.

Perhaps, it is more of a subjective psychological problem if there is no chance to get a fate. If we believe it, it will be good for us after all.
Three. Conclusion

In the previous discussion, it is easy to see which side I am on. The reason that drives me to do this is basically the expectation that everyone believes that the world of love is more than everyone can believe that the world of love is beautiful, and that everyone can't believe in the world of love. But this is only a reason for the existence of evidence. To demonstrate the foundation of the existence of love, I must try to find its legitimacy.

My love is as legitimate reasons may be looking for, that love is possible, summed up, including some key points: love is the birthright of every human being, is a major component of human nature, and love is a part of love; love is the inevitable requirement of human nature, human nature is lonely don't wait to be lonely, nature requires him to let others know yourself and to take the initiative to understand the desire of others; is human form, and is beautiful or harmless, as the foundation of love, then love is good or no harm, and is also one of the important components is an important component of love; part of the pursuit of the meaning of life.

My love is for justification reasons may find that, if believe love is possible, then this will bring us benefits, including the following points: believe in love, will be positive action, only action will have results; hope days are happy days; if you hold the Realistic Orientation of the concept of love, so your love is not a romantic opportunity, and if I believe love, it must have hope.

The pursuit of love is human, and the romantic love works complement the energy, and some factors in the real world do not stop it. Love is not something that exists only in the world of ideas. It is true in life. Some real-life experience examples do not constitute a threat to love itself. Love and marriage system are two different things in essence. Disappointment in marriage is a disappointment to love. This kind of thinking is inertia of laziness.

I think, if one accepts the marriage system, then he should strive to love the "in" into the marriage system in this table, do one table, not "in" the "table" is just an empty shell. But "Li" does not necessarily need this "table", "table" is only the external uniform social uniforms, but "Li" has its own personality. The system of marriage will change, but love will never change. Many couples yearning to fruition, in fact, it is looking forward to marriage, as it is in the longing for more mature love each other.

If a person is not willing to fall in love on campus, because I will break up, so basically you can imagine this is a kind of person. Either too deep is controlled the influence of parents, grow up is a good son or daughter; or is obviously in the campus, the heart has to advance social abyss, when the man finally married, marriage is also likely to be empty; and, probably feel too own beauty or, celebrity aura is too heavy, look at his eyes at the moment the attention of society, let oneself do not dare to love.