Are you afraid of love?

Are you afraid of love?
Philophobia consists of the fear of love that a person can feel once they start falling in love with someone.
How does it manifest?
The philophobe usually begins to relate to a person who is interested in a normal way , having current appointments and showing that he is attracted to it. However, suddenly , the mere fact of contacting that person becomes a real challenge . Nerves take over him, he feels anxiety and, finally, fear. The same terror as when you are in a situation of real danger . Stress takes over both physically and emotionally.
Philophobia can manifest itself with vomiting , nausea, panic attacks, tremors , anxiety ...

How does a philophobe react to falling in love?
A person suffering from philophobia often seeks ways to get away from the object of his love , usually unconsciously. What defense mechanisms do you usually use?

• Start constant conflicts
  Many times the philophobe escapes from relationships by arguing with the person he loves frequently, until he ends up provoking a rupture , which he will attribute to disputes and not to the terror that love provokes.

• Look for defects in the couple
  To make it easier for him to move away from his suffering, the philophobe strives to find fault with his lover or lover. In this way they can justify the reason for their attitude .
  Focus on impossible loves
  Sometimes, the philophobe is convinced that he is in love with someone unattainable and in this way he manages to stay away from love without having to admit that he is afraid of giving himself up to a relationship.

• Get away suddenly
  Many filofóbicos begin to move away little by little of the person by which they feel love when they notice that their romantic relation is forgetting something more serious and that requires a greater commitment.

What can philophobia cause?
1- Bad previous experiences
Both own and others. It may be that whoever suffers from this phobia has had a traumatic relationship before or that someone very close to him has done so, so that he has convinced him that surrendering to love is something scary .

2- Fear of commitment and responsibility
The fact of acquiring a commitment can be a little stressful for anyone, but for a philophobe it is practically unbearable .
This "covenant" makes them feel vulnerable, to such an extent that they may feel the same anguish as a person they are torturing .

3- Loss of emotional control
Falling in love implies experiencing many emotions and very intense emotions . The fact of living so many changes in this sense, make many people accustomed to having their emotions perfectly controlled feel an atrocious fear of love, that is, philophobia.

This phobia in addition to very surprising is very common . If you think you can suffer it or know someone who suffers, you can treat and overcome with the help of a psychologist and the support of those closest to you.