SECRETS OF LOVE! Why your soul mate turned into your heartbreak..... </3

in #love8 years ago

So after that wonderful honeymoon/ infatuation/ disgustingly cute stage is over why does everything start falling down hill???

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As I mentioned in my intro post, I'm an aspiring marriage and family therapist, thus I will be posting a lot about relationship advice and other lovey dovey good stuff....

SO....

I know we've all probably dated people that we thought FOR SURE this is the one. The person who we just couldn't get enough of, the one we thought of morning, noon and night. The person we were going to grow old and die with BUT, two years down the road......you HATE each other and you have no idea where you went wrong.


Wellll......Here's why?

Studies show that most couples have a honeymoon stage of about 2 years. It's during this stage that we are willing to jump through fire to please that other person. The truth is......even though we don't realize it we are not really being our honest selves.....not that we are intentionally acting differently but we are kind of on a love high...

After we get comfortable with that other person we start bouncing back to reality and focusing on ourselves again. This doesn't necessarily mean that we turn into huge jerks....BUT we probably don't do things exaaactly how we did when we first started the relationship. This can sometimes lead to some friction which may or may not eventually end in a break up.......

BUT THERE IS STILL HOPE!

If you have the willpower to make some adjustments to your life and your behaviors within your relationship you can definitely make it work! This may require a little bit of sacrifice........say it with me....SA-CRI-FICE. I know, I know, its not our favorite word but this is why we should make sure we are ready for that full commitment before we get married because it will make the idea of sacrificing a wee bit easier.

We will discuss these post- honeymoon stage love tips in the next blog!

Stay tuned!!!