When He Loves You

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. It is sad to hear ladies making excuses for a man and his behaviour towards them.
"*Men go hard for what they want, if he is not going hard for you, think about it.

Allow your intuition to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slow down! Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
You can’t "be friends with a man that can't treat you the way you deserve" because a friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Communication is key! As long as he is your friend and confidant, he will always run back to you, Dont push him away, laugh even though his joke is always dry..Lol.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things dont get better.
Try as much as you can to avoid men who have children with different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, what shows he will treat you differently?

Set boundaries and keep to that. If something bothers you, speak up. It’s not a good thing to make him know everything about you and your past, he might use it against you in the future, let him know the important ones tho.

Never try to change a man's behaviour because you love him. You can't, for change comes from within, truth is he will change if he wants to. If there is anyone you can change, it is yourself.
Don’t ever make him feel he is more important than you, healthy relationships run on respect and equality, Even if he has more education or in a better job.
Don't make him your god, he is a man nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are.

Again, never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. Be wise and don't be responsible for someone's tears.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you. Set your standards and let him meet that. You should not be the one doing all the bending, for a compromise is a two-way street. Respect yourself and he will respect you.

Don't compare your partner with an ex, if he's not doing something right tell him outrightly instead of comparing him. Once in a while reciprocate his love with kind gestures, let him know you also care.

No matter how your past relationships treated you, not all men are dogs.
What you need is time to heal before you enter new relationships.
Always remember; there is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

In conclusion "Your heart will always be where your treasure is" - Matthew 6:21!
Thanks for reading my long epistle 😁