The codependent love, and how does it make you suffer...

in #love7 years ago

The codependent love

Hello friends, the appointment that brings us here today is co-dependent love, yes, that feeling that sometimes makes us feel so unique in the world but also suffer so much...

Sometimes when you love someone (especially a very dear couple), you want to be with that person day and night, to the point that it's like not being able to breathe when he or she has left your life, it's like wanting to merge there for always, you want to tie him up and imprison him in a jail where he will be safe all his life and that prison, logically... it's you.

But sometimes you ask yourself:

  •  Why do I love this person?
  • Why do I love or love her so much?
  • What did I do to deserve this?

And we almost never get a logical answer...

Until you heal your relationship with the most important person in your life (yourself) you will not heal your relationship with others - Walter Riso.

While you think that this person is sometimes indifferent or unaffectionate with you, you are still there (perhaps waiting for a "miracle"). Maybe we need to look inside ourselves and evaluate if we have overestimated this being, if we have put it so big that we can come to think that we are too little for him or for her...

When we arrived to despair of not having your love and company, we have to review where all this wealth of love emanates and ask us the following questions:

  • Does not it come from you?
  • Are you not the source from which that love springs?
  • What if you fill your life with your own love?

From the moment you find those answers, you will feel great and loved by yourself...

Stop depending, stop needing the other, fill yourself, you are that love, you are that source that originates it and you do not need more.

Thanks so much for reading.

By: Beatriz Contreras.