Thanks for reading this @k0wsk1. This is something that took me a while to realise because no matter how much i tried to follow the rules, what I was learning externally was not matching my own experience nor my feelings. A lot of people do not see this reality because what we are taught (the control and scare tactics) makes us blind. It takes a lot of questioning to look beyond. Only then can you truly and wholly start a healthy relationship with yourself.