Love and Attachment how you can distinguish???

We have often seen people fall in and out of love in a matter of days and have wondered that how could they possibly be in love with so many people in such a short span of time. We may have even felt a strong emotional connect with a person and believed it to be love. But in all these cases, most of the time it was just some sort of emotional attachment with the other person that we tend to mistake as love. Almost all of us have been through this indecision as to whether it is love or just an attachment we have with a person. Emotional attachment often grows into becoming true love..

Though it is almost impossible to distinguish between love and extreme emotional attachment, here are a few things that may help one to differentiate:-

• In love, a person becomes selfless. But when attracted you remain self-centered. You have to understand whether you have turned selfless for the person.

• Love is a very passionate feeling. Nothing is as passionate as love or hate. But attachment is simply apathetic. In an attachment, you get irritated and anxious at times. But you never ever grow tired or bored of the person you are in love with.

• Love is really an intense feeling. It is really not easy to be in love. It is life changing, while attachment becomes difficult only when you are physically apart.

• In attachment people simply grow possessive of one another. You lack security here. Love is freeing. A relationship that thrives on love alone makes the persons in it secure in one another. They completely trust one another when in love. There are misunderstandings, but they resolve it with maturity. Love is not simply forgotten..

• In attachment one wants to have full control of the other person’s life. It is all about having the power to control another. Love is, on the other hand, empowering. You embrace the person with all their flaws in love..

• Two persons are bound to fall out of the settlement if the relationship is based on only attachment. Love is a timeless feeling. In love there is no scope of not having another chance. Life becomes too heavy to live without the other’s presence…