MARRIAGE - A RESPONSIBILITY OR LOVE??

in #marriage7 years ago

Hello everyone, 

I know I promised about sharing baking related recipes on this blog with all of you. I would like to share about something that I keep on listening everyday from my parents, friends, family,etc the most - Marriage. Some people say you should get married as you are getting old, some people say you should get married as you can`t live alone all your life while some just say get married as your friends are getting married. Really. are these the reasons once should get married ???

Growing up, looking up at my parents I felt marriage is a beautiful bond. It indeed is a beautiful bond. In India, most of the youngsters get married either because of family pressure or they think that they have found the one. Mostly marriages in India are arranged ones. Love marriages happen too but the percentage is pretty low as there are a lot of hurdles to cross which too many fail to do.

One question that always comes on my mind is - SHALL WE GET MARRIED BECAUSE THE SOCIETY SAYS SO OR SHALL WE GET MARRIED BECAUSE WE ARE IN LOVE???

For me, Love is when you like spending time with someone, doing things together, doing silly things when you are with each other or even talking endlessly on small topics. But at the end of the day, does it mean if we love someone , we should prove it by getting married to them??? My answer here is a BIG NO. I can`t get married to the one I love just because we are in Love. I can`t rush into marriage just because I love him. I`ll get married when my heart and my mind is ready for it. I`ll not get married because my parents, relatives feel I should. I am a mature girl and know what is right or wrong for me. I might seem a little rude to all of the readers here or some of you may feel I am not in love with this guy. I`ll not hesitate from telling my point of view.

Marriage is a huge responsibility- Yes, for me marriage is a huge responsibility. It`s not just about the bond you share with your partner. You are equally responsible for each and everything ranging from household chores to respecting each other. A girl(wife) is responsible to care for her in-laws, look after the house, look after her parents too and most importantly doing all this along with handling her job. At the same time, a guy(Husband) too should be responsible for looking after the house, caring for his in-laws, caring for his parents and handling his job efficiently. I know many of you would say, we are in 21ST CENTURY and do all this. I agree, but I know many couples where one fulfills his/her responsibility while the other makes excuses every time. 

My question to all the readers here is Should we get married because we are in love or should we get married because we are ready for the big responsibility?? I would love to know your answers and your point of view. 


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