60-Second Plan to Reconnect with your Spouse Part 2
STOP THE DAMAGE
Imagine your spouse completely understood you…
And you felt like you could open up to them about anything...
And they did the same for you.
Your marriage felt safe….
Secure…
-How good would that feel?
To be honest, there's no better feeling in the world…
-Right?
You would know that you were loved and accepted…
Just for being you….
And how would it feel to be the example you want to be to your kids?
To get there, you must focus on stopping the damage.
But how do you do that?
IN EVERY TENSE INTERACTION (YOU KNOW THE ONES THAT USUALLY END IN PAIN)
You seem really upset about this.
I understand why you feel that way.
What can we do to solve this together?
use phrases like this with your partner:
Sounds different, right?
So, get a notebook or open a new document and write them down now.
There's a lot more to de-escalating situations than just these 3 phrases, but I don't want to overwhelm you, so just start with these.
Ok, we've covered how to Stop the Damage.
Now, it's time to dive into how to “Set Healthy Boundaries!”