I've been thinking about this a lot lately. We want the world to be "safe" and "fair" and people should be good to one another, but here is the problem, people are above all things free, and in that freedom they can choose to be terrible to one another. Unfortunately, many do.

Safety and fairness are not the norm, danger and selfishness are closer to the norm. We can change that but again, our freedom makes it hard to imagine a genuine safe and fair life.

To your point, I think we ignore reality, imagine the safe space we want, and live a lie damaging our ability to protect ourselves as best we can, because you need to accept the real danger, before you can prepare for that danger.