The Art of Being a Great Listener and How it Affects Your Relationships...
Hi, Steemians!
People often believe that success stems from being able to talk and present yourself in a delicate manner and socialize with people.
While it is true that our power of speech greatly contributes to the first impression that people get from us, it is not usually what they want from a mutual relationship built on respect and affection.
Sometimes, in order to win the passion of someone who you are dealing with, you need to be a good listener.
When someone comes to you for counsel or just wants to talk to you about his difficulties, you should not make the conversation about yourself. More so, you should not allow yourself to get preachy and tell them how they should live their lives.
Sometimes, all people truly want is someone who can listen to their words and understand what is going through their minds or hearts. Being able to listen is not just about being quiet, but about truly reflecting on the words of the other person and responding to them with care and dedication.
Inspiring people often need company to express their ideas and innovations.
If you are trying to make a friend of such people, or if you find that you are one yourself, you need to learn how to listen, and only then will you be able to create intimate relationships or expect the same respect out of the people close to you.
Being a great listener is a subtle art. People usually want to talk about themselves, but great listeners rarely think about themselves when they are having a conversation.
This is usually great because when you do not pay attention to yourself and appreciate the other person enough to fully dedicate your mind to them, they will see this as a sign of great respect and give back the courtesies by trying to truly understand who you are and what you want.
Great listeners are often in a conversation because of the other person, and not because they themselves have something to say.
I am not saying that you should always be a listener and rarely talk, as that would be out of the ordinary.
No, what you need to understand is that sometimes we need to be there for the people close to us, and that is why we have to learn how to be great listeners.
Great listeners are usually more successful in romantic relationships, as they will create a much more intimate bond with the other person as a result of their listening skills
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Even in business, being a great listener sends a message; that you are a professional person who is interested in the job and wants to really reflect on it.
But you should not mistake being a great listener with someone who lacks the enthusiasm to talk. At the end, your body language indicates whether you are being a great listener or you are simply not interested in what the other person has to say, so you should not really be worried about that.
Being able to listen is like being able to fully appreciate what the other person has to say to you.
Learn how to be a great listener, and you can build much more profound and interesting relationships with other people based on trust, honesty, and vulnerability.
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It’s important to know what type of person you are dealing with. Sometimes you have to make sure you are adapting your listening and communication skills based on the person you are conversing with. If you know how to do this, then you can have a successful conversation with most people you encounter.
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I completely agree with you, the ability to listen is very important, only in this way can we attract the interlocutor and establish a dialogue!
Excellent motivation and you are right, at all times and at different events, learning to listen to someone was a very useful skill and if you were able to do this, you can agree with anyone and build relationships!
Oh yes @chbartist, entering into a conversation with someone, should always have patience and the ability to listen to the interlocutor, because it helps us to enter into confidence with him, which is important in our way of life!
Excellent review, my friend, and if we want to be heard, first of all we must learn to listen, only so we will achieve understanding! Thank you @chbartist
Great message on how to be a good listener. You offered many good examples on how to do so in your post (I.e. not talking about yourself for instance). To add to what you are saying - dont give advice unless asked for it. Or ask the person first if they want your advice. As you suggested people want to talk about themselves and be listened to first and foresmost. Often they do not want you to solve their problems. Other techniques on how to be a good listener are to lean forward into the conversation to convey interest and encourage people to talk with head nods, questions, paraphrases, summarizing what they are saying, simple "mm-hmm"s and prompts.
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A good listener can be a a good speaker untill we don't listen words of the man how we can react and without listen we can reply on that topic . Ita more important 'we should speak, when our words are better than our silence . Good @chbartist
Thanks!
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Thanks for sharing this beautiful subject here.
Everyone loves truly understanding people especially speaking person.
Good listener they're remember Fallow up conversation wherever possible.
Great listener cares they're show empathy for what the other person has to say.
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there's an old saying that reminds us of the gift of being a good listener. "You have 2 ears and one mouth for a reason". Talking in a vacuum won't do anything. On the opposite, sitting silently with someone grieving can be what someone needs the most. Be with people, listen to what they have to say, let them share with you what's hard to share... That's how relationships are made of.
Ha! The art of listening! Finally someone sees the benefits and the true art of giving of oneself to benefit another and we in return benefit as well. Happy I ran into this blog at 1:00 am! I should be sleeping. :D
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