The Hazardous Tendency of Sulking and How it Affects Our Relationships...
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The need for honesty and communication has never been bigger than now. A stable and profound relationship is one built on trust and honesty.
It doesn’t matter whether it is a casual acquaintance, a friendship that has lasted for many years, or a romantic courtship, because at the end of the day, one glue holds them all together and that glue is communication; the honest and vulnerable interaction of the two people involved.
Unfortunately, relationships are prone to a dangerous poison called sulking.
When we begin a relationship with other people, we make an innocent mistake. The mistake that we may have found a person who can finally understand us.
Someone who can know us better than we know ourselves, and someone who will take every hint and relieve us from having to explain ourselves over and over to people because they couldn’t quite touch the idea that we wanted to express.
This is a dangerous tendency and an innocent mistake, as we said. Because however close you feel with the other person in a relationship, you must understand that they cannot ever fully understand you.
When you accept this, you will not only prevent an eventual disappointment, you will also learn that sulking will not help you in the matter.
People tend to sulk when there is something wrong, but they don’t want to say it out loud. So, they sulk and make faces, staying quiet and irritating the other person, while building up anger because they expect that other person to realize what it is that they are sulking about.
They do not want to tell you what is bothering them, because they expect you to understand it on your own, because deep in their mind, they feel like that you may be the only person that can understand them.
While that is a romantic idea, it is dangerous and can lead to folly.
Because you cannot expect any single person to fully understand you.
No one is in that position. One could even argue that you cannot sometimes understand your own emotions and feelings, so how can we expect other people to understand us better than we understand ourselves?
In that situation, sulking and holding back emotions when the wise path would be to express them with open honesty, can only lead to irritation and devastation on both sides.
When something is bothering you, make a note to yourself and just say it to the other person. Only with honesty can you build a relationship on respect, trust, and true understanding.
If you really feel like someone should understand you and they are not, why do you have to turn it into such a big deal when you could simply tell them everything? As hard as it can be to hear the truth, your expectations are often ill-founded and illogical.
The next time something is bothering you, try to just say it with absolute honesty and you will not live to regret it!
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Hola amigo @chbartist buena publicación, la verdad que con la honestidad se logra todo, y cuando estamos de malhumor muchas veces se nos nubla a mente y tendemos a vociferar palabras no adecuada como para liberar esa ira, en otras ocasiones la persona se queda callada y tiende es a acumular toda esa rabia y esa ira, hasta que lega a un punto de estallar, por ello lo mejor es mantener una buena comunicación que como dice el dicho "HABLANDO SE ENTIENDE LA GENTE", te felicito por tu publicación, de parte de @jorge090202 desde Venezuela.
Liked these lines very much. Thank you so much for the post @chbartist
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A gesture says more than a thousand words, but only expresses emotions and feelings, and it doesn't give explanations of why. So, it is important to maintain a clear and honest communication when we are angry without waiting for the other person guess the reasons why we are in a bad mood.
Many problems can be avoided in our relationships when we are open and sincere to talk about what uncomfortable or disgust them, as well as to displanat us of that you should not act in that way for fear of tobeting others. All that we feel can be expressed with serenity and soft touch.
Regards
If you truly want a successful relationship or partnership, you must be open to communication whatever the situation as precious time is spent when not doing so. Be direct and forward as it is the best way to find solutions when confronted with a situation.
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Your thoughts are going to be kept by note that when he can not understand himself some time sometimes, how can he understand us.That is why this leads to hatred towards the relationship.Surely if anything happens to me in the future, then we will follow your thoughts completely.
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Just like consulting a physician, you have to tell all the things he wanted to know for a proper diagnosis of your health concern.
Showing your accountability-partner of your vulnerability gives them the real concern and awareness of your situation.
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Thanks again
Love from @ajks
The basis of any serious relationship that lasts forever is honesty and fidelity, communication is also essential to avoid misunderstandings that may influence the relationship.
Dear @chbartist
If we hope that people understand our thoughts without telling us, then this is utterly stupid, because nobody's mind is written on the brain. Though the expressions and behaviors can be guessed, but accurate estimation is difficult. Some people are known for their unsolicited comments, although more mental injury reaches them but there is no such thing as repentance. I think this is the best way to display anger, because it hurts quickly, but later it becomes normal. This process works like a word and weapon wound. On the contrary, some people try to present anger in a vague form, which is reflected in the different postures, activities and their behaviors of their faces. This kind of anger damages itself rather than harm others.
In a relationship, the basis is sincerity. You should never keep what you feel because then comes the time when you explode and it is worse because then you say things that you should not. If something bothers you about your partner it is better to say it at the moment or when the bad mood has passed. In this way, when a similar situation occurs, your partner can understand you better or act better.