Prayers and loving thoughts for you and your family. Hold strong and clear for you child, for they too learn from our actions and emotional fields. If your partner is open for a shift/healing might I suggest some of Dr. Joe Dispenza's works, his mapping and quantum field information has helped myself and many friends through some dark times. I think hypnotherapy to release old traumas is crucial, and challenging to find the person for you, however, we mostly don't understand that we can be living from a limbic fear state from something that happened to us as a child or throughout our adult life and all our actions in every day life are just a reaction to this, so the patterns continue and escalates and goes round and round. Let there be love, compassion and healing through your process for all involved. If you need a listening ear.... I'll send ya my email... ?