My story - How to build a relationship, if all the money your beloved goes to pay alimony?

in #my-story6 years ago

A young man is 12 years older than me. Together we have been with him for 9 months. He was married, divorced 3 months ago, since he and his ex-wife had been given a meditation for 3 months.

He has 3 children - 11 and two for 6 years. Relations with us are remarkable. A friend without a friend can not. We love each other very much. But more recently, you can say a week ago, the former wife filed for alimony and now he will deduct 75% from his salary, since there is still debt.

The same day he wrote to me that he lets me go so that I did not go with him to the "abyss". He has a salary of 15-20, he says that we can not live together, even together with my salary (we rent an apartment). He says that he does not want to drag me into this debt hole.

After this SMS we did not communicate with him all day and still, then met, because we can not have each other without a friend. And now both are in sad thoughts. I myself do not know what to do. I'm ready to fight with him for everything, try to get out of this all. But, when I think deeper, because I'm only 24 years old. That is, not to give birth to a child from him, since there will not be enough money.

I do not know if anyone had such a situation when you do not know what to do. Still for some reason I do not want to part with him, it's because I do not want to live at home with my parents, we are in very bad relations with them. And now you do not know what to do, survive or think about your future.