my broadcast on national tv on how to pick up women

A couple of days ago I was on national television. They wanted to make reportage of people who go up and talk to women, trying to pick them up. Through mutual friends they came to me. I am not an expert on this, nor do I see myself as a playboy. Back then I thought why not.

It wasn’t the smartest idea I had. Normally I don’t make a big fuss about talking to girls; it is not that something bad can happen. The mistake I made was that those cameras had such big effect on me.
I was nervous really nervous, most of them just kept walking and ignoring me. The ones that did stop I was acting like a creep. But let me tell you the whole story:

meeting the first time

Before the meet up with the presenter they wanted to know my story. To know if there was a deeper story that people could relate to. Then the editor came and talked to me to see and apparently he had to defend my point of view to his superiors. Eventually they decided I got a shot and then they could see if they proceed with it or not.

So on broad daylight I met up with the presenter of the reportage and talked a bit on how I make the first contact. I was even nervous when I know they were going to film me and the moment the cameras were rolling I got even more nervous. I was shaking on my feet, it felt like the first time I started talking to a woman, except of the nausea. For the people who are wondering I don’t drink when I want to meet new people.

So after a 10minut interaction I had to perform. Walking up to women wasn’t the problem, but because I was so nervous I couldn’t be comfortable with the whole situation which resulted in back reactions. Not that anyone told me to f*ck off, but most conversations didn’t last long, less than a minute. The ones that did stop were almost always in a relationship so there it stopped for me although some wanted me to continue. I don’t see what for use it has. Normally I don’t care as much and would talk to them maybe I could have another great female friend in my social circle.

the next day

The day after our first meet up they wanted to follow me again. Apparently everyone was so impressed that they wanted to continue with me even though I failed tremendously. I wasn’t feeling great that can happen if you get rejected 15 times in 1 hour. But we agreed to meet up again the next day so I went for it. After an hour I said I want to stop for the day. In two days I almost got rejected 30 times.

clubbing

After those two horrible nights they wanted to film me when I was in a club. The two other days were on the streets. No matter what I tried I always got rejected. In my whole life i haven’t done this bad just because I was so nervous thanks to the cameras. I started with a wrong attitude: I wanted to show people how good I was, that I had to prove myself but that’s a wrong mindset. If you go out to meet new people always start with the mindset of having fun.

I kept failing over and over again and I don’t give up. There is always one person that will react well to you. This happens after I got rejected 5 times in the club, problem there was that someone came to us and screwed everything up.

one more day

They wanted to try one more day on the streets although it went a bit better, it still sucked big times. It was in this last day I came across like a creep. Jokes that went nowhere and the vibe was bad. You know by seeing people acting and reacting to each other how it went. Everyone has known a creep, never thought I would act that way but due the nervousness I was a creep.

the broadcast

Of course my friends were thrilled that one of their friends came on national television. After the broadcasting my friends were a bit angry on the presenter. She told the viewers a couple of times that my outfit wasn’t good enough. All my friends were complaining that she had said that 4 times. That the point of the reportage was: how to pick up women and not on how to dress nicely.
Even my female friends were complaining about it. I don’t really get why. I wasn’t looking nicely so she made a comment on it, she was right. I agree that it maybe wasn’t so smart to mention it fore times, but why does it matter?

I mean they wanted someone who shows them how to talk to girls, trying to pick them up. That my dress style isn’t great because I am obese it a fact. That I can change that is also a fact, only I have promised myself that I don’t by anymore clothes until I lost weight.

after the broadcast

Because I got rejected so many times and I didn’t picked a woman up people were laughing with me and some searched me on facebook so they could provoke me. For some reasons the majority were men. Of course the past days people recognized me more and I had one woman who said to me she liked what I did. She respected me more because I was honest with the girls I talked to show my intention without being disrespectful toward women.

Although I didn’t succeed as I thought I would and by that I mean even a conversation not really to go on dates or other things. I found it a really interesting experience. How many people can say they have met an national celebrity and were on national tv? And as far as the bad reactions goes; there will be always people who don’t approve what you do and those reactions will fade away after my 5 seconds of fame. Things come and go in life, so make the best of it without any regret. That’s how I see my experience of 5 seconds of fame.

my conclusion

Although it didn’t worked out as I hoped it would. I see that I have been walking a long path to where I am now. I know my first time I wanted to talk to a girl sober. When I was done talking to her, I had to sit down and recover for 10 minutes before. Do you know what I said to her? If she knew if there was another party somewhere. That’s it. Now I can go up to a girl tell her upfront why I am talking to her, start a small conversation and sometimes even get her phone number. Years of trying has gotten me to this point. I am thankful that friends of friends had given me the opportunity to show what I could do. I am grateful that I had an opportunity that most people don’t get.
I believe everything in life is an opportunity to learn from, no matter how bad it is as long as you live and you learn great things are ahead of you. That’s what I believe in. the most important things is that although some experiences aren’t as great as you wanted them to be, never regret your choice but make the best of it.

Until the next time

Take care!