The couple who can really live well, only this one

Read a quote that said.

"Some people think that the essence of love is romance, in fact, romance is just a wave in the ocean of love, compassion is the cornerstone to support the building of love, especially for married couples, without mutual compassion, it is impossible to do with the difficulties, together through thick and thin."

I think so.

We are always emphasizing that couples should understand, tolerate and sympathize with each other, but you know what, if there is no mutual compassion, simply can not do this.

It is a necessary prerequisite and foundation, and then life can gradually glow.

Love, after all, is not formalism on the surface work, Valentine's Day to send roses, birthday to transfer, but can be implemented to the details of life in the warmth, care about each other's feelings, care for each other's lives, as well as to be able to keenly capture each other's emotional changes.

The so-called sense of security and a sense of belonging, it is also through the small thing after small thing, time and time again to feel the cultivation.

When you really have these two feelings, even if the other party never in some holidays to show, you simply will not have any doubts, not love the suspicion.

If only in a certain holiday, through the other party to send the gift, can feel each other's love, this is the biggest sadness between the couple.

The holidays, to live is ritualistic, in order to make that day different from the usual days, in no way is used to prove that I love you, but unfortunately many people have reversed this order.

The most important thing to remember is to always be the first to think of yourself when it comes to things, and to think only of yourself, which is just a deception that steals the name of true love.

The real love means that I am willing to change for you and to make sacrifices for your sake, and if it can be mutual, it is impeccable.

I have a friend, some time ago for the first time to hear him talk about, usually and his wife's mode of getting along, at that time, I felt that he deserved to live a happy life, there is nothing better than the best couples.

Since he had a child, almost not how to get together with friends, every day after work on the fire to rush home.

Because he knows his wife is working hard at home with the children, so he has to rush home to share, as much as possible to do more, so his wife will be easier, and his wife is also thinking the same way, as much as possible to make themselves a little more hard, but also to make him easier.

So no matter what work there is at home, the two people are never grabbing to do, very tacit understanding of that kind.

For example, friends back home, thinking of his wife with a day of hard work with the children, to hold the children to let his wife quiet for a while, but his wife always waved his hand and said: "You work a day, adults and children are depending on you to feed, you go to rest, I still have time."

This is the embodiment of compassion, the more so, the more the other party wants to do a little more, but also willingly.

In fact, a day down, two people are tired enough, just each other are heartbroken each other, on the mouth hard, but then, the body may still be tired, but the spirit ushered in a warm stream.

Everything is mutual, like the mutual affection between friends and wives, gradually formed a virtuous circle.

In short, both want to make themselves a little more hard work, for each other a little easier, but both sides will not really idle, if you do not let me hold the child, then I will find what other work, such as mopping, folding clothes, washing dishes, etc..

Anyway, these jobs are certain, I gave done, it will save you to do it again.

Occasionally friends late dinner, back home wife immediately to him to make honey water to wake up, every time I encounter this situation, are the most guilty friends, feel that his wife every day has been very hard, they drink into this, but also let her take care of themselves.

So also because of this feeling of pity for his wife, unless it is necessary to socialize, the general party is not much to participate.

Many, many things are like this, but all the things they can handle, the couple do not want to work each other hard, even if they have to run more.

Finally, in this virtuous circle of nurturing, each other is also willing to work a little harder for each other, basically nothing to complain about, when there is any work two people are grabbing to do the case, but also not so hard, at least not feel aggrieved, the mood is smooth.

So you say this kind of couple, how can not live well? In fact, the couple can really live well, only this one, mutual compassion, and can put the interests of the family in the first place.

But there are many couples in life that often put their own personal interests first.

All things are clearly divided, all the conflicts also because of the word "should" and the two, such as that is what you should do, this is my share of things, are defined by themselves to a standard, thinking of doing a little less, so that they are a little easier, a little more are not willing to bear.

Then only feel that they are the biggest contributor to that home, feel that they are always the hardest, and thus the other party's contribution to deny.

Either is constantly blaming and belittling each other, accusing each other why not to share their own, belittling each other to do everything badly, even the share is not doing well.

When the couple only left to calculate, slowly will only drift apart.

The best couples, is to put the interests of the family in the first place, understand that everything is done for the sake of the home, home good two people are good, not to take on a little more feel the loss.

Including the housework thing, which is a very simple thing, who has time to do more, who does not have time to do less, after all, you are busy at the same time, the other party is not idle, are busy for the family and busy, just busy with different things.

Which is what belongs to each other's responsibility, where it is so clear, are too heavy on the selfishness.

The result is that you don't want to work hard, I don't want to work hard, leading to a growing relationship between husband and wife, are too greedy to enjoy themselves, fundamentally undermining the interests of the family, a loss of all.

In the end, it is the lack of the most important compassion between husband and wife, because it is too selfish to care about each other's feelings, do not care about each other's hard work, and to take for granted the attitude of enjoying each other's efforts.