Training My Daughters to Attack An Attacker!

in #palnet5 years ago

I am a peaceful person, but I understand that there are times in life where we have to use our physical strength to stand against evil and defend ourselves and the people we love.

I have never been in a fistfight, and I hope I never have to, but I have mentally prepared myself for the possibility someday. I have also started preparing my daughters on how to respond (mentally and physically) in case of an attack.

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Know The Steps

Avoid


The best way to guard yourself against an attack is by avoiding situations where you can be attacked. Everyone does not enjoy the benefit of living in safe cities, safe neighborhoods, or even safe homes. But to the extent that you can avoid a dangerous situation, I recommend you take precautionary steps.

The following are some of the avoidance principles we are teaching (even though some of them may not be applicable yet):

  • Show kindness to all people, but be aware that not all people will return that kindness
  • Don't place yourself in situations that isolate you from other people, either physically, emotionally, or digitally
  • There is strength in numbers

Run

We prefer prevention, but we also teach preparedness. We want our children to trust their senses to the point that if something does not seem right, they know they can leave. There is a lot of cultural pressure on children to stay in situations that may not be good for them, especially from their peers.

Regarding potential physical attacks, we want our children to be prepared to run away (physically leave the situation). Running away is not shameful. Running away could very well save their lives.

Hide

My children may not have the physical strength and endurance to run away from an attacker. When attacked unexpectedly, there may not be a viable path for removing themselves from the dangerous situation. The next step is to hide.

Being quiet, staying calm, and effectively communicating with others is an important part of the hiding process. Remaining unseen is crucial. Remaining alert is vital. I want my kiddos to always be on the lookout for new opportunities to run away.

Barricading can be a life-saving endeavor as it potentially slows down or prevents an attacker from entering a room where someone is hiding. I have taught my children to lock doors when possible, to move furniture when available, and to use their bodies as barriers to prevent doors from being opened.

Engage

The final step is attack, but engaging should be the only option when all other options are no longer available.

The following are some of the engage principles I have taught my daughters:

  • When possible, attack as a group. Once again, there is strength in numbers.
  • Usually, attackers are physically stronger, so you have to be mentally strong.
  • Be aggressive towards soft targets on your attacker - eyes, ears, groin, hair, etc.
  • Use all of your weapons - fists, thumbs, elbows, knees, teeth, etc.
  • Don't let the attacker use fear to prevent you from engaging.

Final Thoughts


I don't like thinking about the possibility of something happening to one of my children. As a father, it is my job to protect my kiddos to the best of my ability. It is also my job to prepare them to protect themselves.

I don't want to create fear, but I do want them to be aware and ready. I feel that I am teaching my children something that can very well save their beautiful lives and protect their child-like wonder.

I want to hear from you.

  1. Have you discussed these steps with someone important in your life? Children, spouse, etc?
  2. Do you feel that you and your loved ones are prepared for an unexpected attack?

Thanks for stopping by. See you in the comment section.
@SumatraNate

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I think your 4 steps are absolutely correct. I had some fights when I was a kid but have about the same strategy when it comes to fights. I will do everything I can to avoid it but if I see there is no other way out I am prepared to defend myself.

I thank God he gave me height and naturally big body so it deters people from trying to fight me. lol But, I think you are doing the right thing of preparing your daughters for any kind of situation they find themselves in. I think it is important. You can't avoid everything in life, but being prepared is always a good option.

Thanks for stopping by @awakentolife. Being prepared for the unexpected gives us a better chance of overcoming the unexpected.

I believe it is every parent duty to prepare their children for life. Unfortunately, learning to defend themselves is part of today's world, no matter what your social status is.

I was the victim of a surprise attack in a stairwell. I used my knee and found that as intimidating as this person was, he wasn't all that when confronted with a knee in his male ego. While I always believe that engaging with the person is last resort, this person was strong and I felt like he would not mind having his way.

Self-defense is important and my parents made sure that all their children were at least prepared to defend or protect themselves. I can say that you never think it will happen to you.

To this day, I use stairwells, but I am pretty picky which ones I will use.

Excellent post.

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Thanks for sharing your experience with us. I am glad to hear that you were ready for the situation, even though you never wished for it.

Your parents are a great example for us that we need to prepare our kiddos for all different types of situations in life.

Keep taking those stairs. Keep staying safe!

What a great post and spot on Advise, the advice you give and the order is definitely the way to go try the other steps first, and engage should always only be the last resort.

Completely agree. Engage only when you have no other options. Thanks for stopping by!

That is the way I am and fortunately i have only been forced to engage twice mind you I have been in some rough spots I would hope most never need to engage

You are wise to share this with the girls at a young age before they need to know it. Being calm and entertaining lots of questions helps so much. I agree, we never want to promote violence, but awareness is key! Being a runner I was always aware of my surroundings! You have to prepare for the unexpected :) Great post @sumatranate, you're a great father!

Thanks for the kind words @birdsinparadise! Awareness and preparation are key. Be safe out there, especially as you run!

I would add some thoughts to the "Avoid" part
Sometimes it's easier to make them avoid you instead. Attackers are like hunters they're looking for easy prey, a seemingly weak one. By showing strength through body language, we can easily make them pass by and keep searching for an easier victim. Plus, martial arts like Karaté and kung-fu... Can help with body language for the "Avoid" step as well as with the "Engage" part.

Great point. Avoiding is not just about staying away from potential attackers but also making sure that they stay away from you. Thanks for your addition to the conversation.

Sadly, is more and more likely someone will need to know about self protection.

Great post and greetings.

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It is sad. There are a lot of things in the world that are sad. That is why we need to prepare ourselves and the people we love.

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