I have the perfect boyfriend who was transformed by my ex

No one is immune to the influence of their partner in a relationship, and sometimes even if that person has become a bygone era, the legacy can carry over into the next relationship.

Some girls will bring the shadow of the former to the next one, because in the past feeling experience did not get enough security and become sensitive and suspicious, because of the former male chauvinism and become pleasing personality...... A relationship can literally change a person's love habits.

I have observed a subtle "ex-girlfriend compensation effect" in many men after a breakup, in which they make up for what they owe their ex to their successor in the future.

Brush a little red book to see a sister said her boyfriend is particularly willing to give her money, usually every three or five to send a small gift, a festival is transfer gift received soft, her boyfriend opened a large amount of relatives card.

It was not until one day that I accidentally looked at my boyfriend's mobile phone chat records with friends that I realized that he had no money when he was with his ex, and that their breakup was related to this reason. "If I had treated xx (ex's name) the way I treated her, MAYBE XX would not have left me," she said.

She began to think about her boyfriend's generosity is out of his love, or the guilt of the former and compensation psychology, inevitably suspected the purity of this relationship.

Love is very cruel, someone is good to you is to make up for the last person. It sucks to be used as a substitute, even if you're temporarily enjoying "the good."

"Predecessors plant trees, descendants into the shade" we all understand the truth, planting trees may not be able to wait for the shade, but only to enjoy the shade of the newcomers, sometimes is not necessarily a bad thing.

There is a friend who recently took off the single, claiming to have made the most satisfied boyfriend in his long life.

During the date, I was polite and respectful to girls. I chose restaurants around her house. Not inappropriately touching, but still feeling intimate.

After you are together, you will pay attention to the subtle changes in her lip color and give her compliments. It's ritualistic and romantic. It doesn't give annoying straight gifts. It even knows the scent of perfume. Emotional value is also very sufficient, can detect her mood changes, quarrel will not put tough words, will not let her with negative emotions overnight.

She said that it was so cool to fall in love with this kind of guy. When I was young, I might be jealous and fussy, but when I got older, I had a "pick up what's ready" mentality. I didn't want to plant trees but just wanted to be in the shade. Two people can hit it off on a lot of issues without having to spend any time or effort trying to guide each other, and it's great to be able to fit in everywhere.

She even wants to thank her ex-girlfriends for training him so well and teaching him what good, healthy love is.

Of course, like most young boys in the past, he rampaged in love and did not know how to give in. He did not know what girls liked and wanted. Once there was a problem, he would put himself in the shell and just wanted to escape without bothering to solve it. It took a little bit of work from relationship to relationship to get the "perfect boyfriend" you have today.

Even with the mentality of leaving no regrets in another way to make up, it is not to make up for the current, is to the previous that always screwed up their own.

The meticulous attention to the current is not necessarily the compensation of the former, but the result of the replacement. It's like playing a game, where you accumulate experience over time, and your abilities and equipment are constantly upgraded, and your skill points are stacked one by one.

I may not know how to deal with the same problems in the past, but after experiencing some things, I will know how to solve them quickly and effectively. I have a more mature and stable mentality, and I also know how to cherish each other and how to maintain the relationship between two people. My love level has also been improved in this process.

After all, whatever the past was, it was an experience, and it was impossible to change it. It is the sum of the people and things you have experienced that shapes the person you like and choose. Without any of them, you might not be the person you are now.

So ah, in love, we do not need to pursue the past, the future depends on the situation, cherish the present is very good.