Manning up is THE ONLY WAY. Manning up to small shit is relatively easy. ie. I am late for work, I slept in. Manning up to the really big stuff that goes on for long periods of time is really hard. Like yes I spent all our money on booze, clothes, gambling etc. However, it is the only way. In the end after the manning up you actually do start to feel better, because only then do we start to feel free. We then become truth. With truth comes less stress and anxiety. Like yes I smashed the car etc. Hiding and lying about addictions and huge errors is worse than being upfront and saying ..Hello..I am a former......etc. If you loose people along the way of becoming your truth, then they were not meant to be with you. They were only catalysts. ONLY THE TRUTH WILL EVER SET YOU FREE. LIVE THAT TRUTH AND OWN IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You will be surprised at the respect you receive. x