Speech is a speech and discourse that contains a certain meaning, and appears in the form of a group of consecutive voices. Also, the speech includes several words that a person uses to express himself, therefore speech has great importance in life, and it also has an important role in the success of society, and a person must pay attention By the art of speaking, by showing good listening and caring about the speaker more than the topic, avoiding boycotting the speaker, dealing with people as he likes to treat him, and keen on discussing rather than arguing, and that the goal is to reach the truth and not victory and excellence on the other party in the conversation.

Tips to master the art of speaking

There are several tips for mastering the art of speaking, talking, dialogue and communicating with others, and here comes a set of them:

• The art of listening or silence: It is the first art of speech arts, and there are two types of silence which are positive silence and negative silence, and positive silence is defined as the one that gives its owner the opportunity to listen to the speaker and is the type that calls one to think and get experiences and meditation, but negative silence is the type Which indicates weak self-confidence, so one is silent in order to avoid ridicule others or for fear of being attacked when he says an opinion that contradicts the other opinion, and one must master the art of listening and training in order to be a good listener, in order to understand what others say.

• Not interrupting the speaker: Boycotting is an inappropriate and distant habit from the rules of good speech. Boycotting the speakers is considered a violation of the literature, and one must ask the speaker's permission if he wants to start the conversation, because it indicates the listener's lack of interest in the talk of the speaker with his desire to change it, or boycotting him to tell him He has experienced the same experience, and the boycott may be to oppose the speaker in his viewpoint, or his approval of it, or the boycott to be humor, and the speaker, when he sees that the listener is boycotting him and is not interested in his speech, must realize that the conversation does not like him or that he is not interested in him and he must change the conversation Gradually, or be replaced His speaking style When he notices that the listener is getting bored, for example, he may use the question style instead of narration in order to involve the listener in the conversation.

• Differentiating between the debate and the debate: the person must differentiate between them, because the discussion is a dialogue between two or more parties on a specific topic, and regardless of the compatibility or differences in views, the goal is to reach the truth, but the debate is a characteristic dominated by attack by On the other as it is characterized by intensity, and often it is intended to show and win one person over the other, regardless of whether or not the truth is reached.

• Reducing speech: one must observe time, do not dwell on his speech, and do not take account of the speech alone, so that the listener is not tired of it.

• Choosing the right circumstance for speech: It is the desire to choose the appropriate time and place for speaking, so the person must choose the right person to speak with, so speaking with a friend differs from speaking with the manager of work, and speaking in a public place differs from speaking in a friend's house.

• Taking into account the difference of opinions: the opinions of people differ completely in the same way as their forms, their lengths and their mixes are different, and it is worth noting that the difference of opinions should not lead to incompatibility of the hearts, and that the speaker is not expecting to obtain the people's permanent approval of his views, it may be wrong and he must not be angry or He gets excited or disappointed because of this.

• Observing oneself: By ensuring that a person observes himself when he talks with other people and talks with them, he must not raise his voice, nor polarize his eyebrows, but it is important to draw expressions of comfort and calmness on his face during dialogue and discussion.

• The use of examples: It is the speaker's use of examples during speech, and one example that clarifies the intended idea of speech may fulfill the purpose more than the use of weak speech that is useless, and that the examples would remain in the mind and convince the listener more.

• Speaking according to the minds of people: The subject that one person understands may not be understood by another person, and the subject that admires another person may not like another person, and one must not speak at a higher or lower level than the listener because he will thus not listen to it.

• Informed discussion: It is that a person does not participate in the discussion of a topic that he does not know, and he must not defend an idea unless he is convinced that he is convinced of it, and he must be confident of his information on the subject of the conversation; so that he does not harm himself or the idea he defends.

• The search for common points: is the interest of the speaker in the search for common things between him and the listener, so that the listener feels that the idea that the speaker is talking about is his idea as well.

• Eloquence: Excellence in language proficiency, discipline control, and sound expression, by using a seamless method to facilitate understanding of speech.

• Avoid being ashamed of not knowing: It is not being ashamed in the absence of knowing something.

• Honesty in presenting information: It is the linking of the speaker between the information or phrases he says with its original source.

• Self-control: It is wary of losing self-control, as there are people who are not interested in searching for the truth, but rather wanting to argue and aim to embarrass only the other side.

• Fairness and praise: It is the keenness of the listener to express his admiration for the speech issued by the speaker, and if he wants to argue, he must argue over what is better and avoid the challenge of the speaker.

• Distinguishing between the idea and its speaker: the listener must not offend the idea holder if he wants to prove its nullity.

• Commitment to the goal of the conversation: is to ensure a return to the course of speech quickly in the event of any deviation from its path.

• Stop the discussion: to stop the discussion if one finds that it is of no use.

Etiquette speak

The person’s mastery of talking and communicating with others depends on taking into account certain matters. Before speaking, he must remember that the best of words is what he said and indicated, and he must realize that the way of his words expresses the extent of his culture as well as his personality, and if he wants to be an important person, he must be interested as well. And when he wants to attend a specific symposium or invitation, he must prepare himself well, and know the subject and the necessary things for the invitation before attending, but during the speech there are some of the things that a person must consider, namely:

• Be sure to listen more than speak.
• Choose an appropriate topic for the listener.
• Avoid raising costs between the speaker and the listener. Talk in a moderate and understandable voice.
• Control movements.
• Looking at the listener if he is one person, and distributing the view among the seated if they are a group.
• Avoid denying the speaker even if he is actually lying.