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RE: Want To Get What You Don't Already Have? The Art Of Compersion Will Get You There!
Great text. I've been applying similar philosophy into my life for some time already and I must say that it brings me much more joy and satisfaction that I'd ever felt before. My views about love and relationships has changed through years and especially my last partner taught me a lot. Also about myself. I believe that love is unlimited feeling and it can only be positive. Love evolves us, lets us grow, brings peace in our minds. What makes us suffer is an attachment, jealousy, possessiveness. The feeling that we want to belong to one person. When we start to analyse our feelings we can get to the point, that actually we don't love the person next to us.
@agniese do you mean that we can get to the point where we recognize that love stems from ourselves and not the other person? If so, I fully agree with you. I think it's the greatest illusion to think that someone else is the curator of your love. That's what leads to attachment. I struggle with this concept every day but you learn it by losing those relationships and realizing that the love is still there, even though that person is gone!
@axios, that's exactly my point. Thinking like: "Oh I give him/her so much love, so much attention and I received nothing", means that we just have an interest in this person. We expect from somebody to be the way we would like him/her to be and we demand particular way of treating. To be loved is such a great feeling but I find even more pure joy in giving love without any expectations.
Me too @agniese. I think that true love operates unconditionally. It doesn't require anything in return, nor does it have an agenda. It just is, and with that, it is always enough.
For years I had a problem loving another person because I didn't love myself. So to a certain degree, I believe that first we have to love ourselves and then we can love another human being without the need of attachment.
@isabellemonisse I agree with you. When we don't feel happy with ourselves we need much more from other people to value us, to appreciate us. But it's wrong. Also, when we don't love ourselves we easily confuse feelings.