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RE: Barriers to Change: Fear, Being a Victim, and Not Saying No is Automatically Saying Yes
In my experience, speaking up actually lead to being bullied. As a bully can in most times act it out when the environment made it possible ie. potential bullies who gather together to be feared and feel powerful. they then ganged-up on you. Reporting it to the higher up most times are met with unbelief or over-sensitivity to the issue where proofs are needed. In the worst scenario, the bully 1st reported that she was bullied and not the other way around. Personal statements of being bullied didn't count, even if other people came forward for being bullied before by the same person. Till now, this person is still bullying other staff yet the management ridicule those speaking up.
Thanks for the feedback! Yes, that's because of psychological biases and fallacies, such as group think and herd mentality, and again fear comes into play. They stand for whats popular and bully you into silence for standing up against the mainstream current of the current condition they are attached to as the way reality is. They don;t care for truth or honesty or whats right, and then they identify with the victim or abuser... and pick the abuser... because they don't want to be a victim.
if you're friends stood with you, you can put the bully int heir place, Strength in numbers. That's how a community work, for good or bad. Mob rules isn't a good thing. Truth and morality are.
I feel for ya. Thanks for your story again. I'm anti-bully and anti-troll, if you read the "related" post I have.
And workplace juvenile consciousness is common due to power of hierarchical structure, those who seek to dominate gravitate towards those jobs as well.
Minorities in a workplace are usually the ones who are targeted.
Also, bigots know on when to play as victims manipulating those people around them. I kinda like the workplace juvenile consciousness thing, they don't accept this as they can't see themselves whereas its so blatantly staring at them.
I do believe that most times they are insecure and incompetent, needing other people to feel secure, strength in numbers.
Yes, being comfortable alone, solitude, is hard for many and seek to be with others for validation.