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RE: Why do we seek approval? Why do we seek love from external sources?
I liked reading this and it's making me think why as well.... I don't think I can answer it until I search myself deep down. Why do I seek love from others or approval? I need to seek it from myself... You're right! I will need to ponder about this to get a real answer from myself. Need to learn how to love myself, instead of letting what others said what I was growing up to dictate who I am today!
Thank you for the kind words. I am not saying to be self-centered but when you think about it, we are main actors in our movies... Sometimes a side actor will give a good advice or change the whole plot for better or worse but we will remain, main actors :) Please, let me know when you have the answers, and when you start doing you! :)
I dont think I've ever done me! Little's have entered into my life just over 3 years ago and it is NEVER about me anymore, if it ever was lol Now, more than ever, I need to have some of me for just me. That way I can better take care of and love the ones who are most important in my life. It isn't about being self-centered, but if you cannot love yourself then how can you expect to give love to others. Pure love at that!
Maybe you did, but you're just a little different you now? :D We change our shells, or at least we should. To grow is to change :) Congratulations, I get how you feel haha :) Definitely, and yea you got that on point about, but I just didn't express myself the best way in the comments, English is my second language so sorry for that :) Thank you.
You're doing great for your second language! Didn't catch that ;) And thank you! When growing up I was picked on by the neighborhood kids. For some reason I was the target, perhaps it was because I was the more loving one and had my heart on my sleeve kind of thing. I would be called many names and other things done to me, which lowered my self esteem/confidence. Took it to heart and believed most everything they said about me. My self value was very low due to that. I tried to ignore it and not let it bother me, but being young that's hard to do! Now that I'm an adult with my own kids I could care less what other people think! Just need to heal myself from the damage I took at a younger age.
Sorry for the rant! ;D
Yea bullies tend to pick on the ones who have feelings so they make them numb... bastards. Sorry to hear that I wish someone was there to stop it, my friend and I were always defending the kids that were bullied.
I am glad you have a clear mind now and care only about kids and your sake! You will heal if you forgive! No, don't be sorry, thank you for opening up on internet, it's hard to do, I myself also did a post about my life :) Thank you very much, sorry for not responding I haven't been steeming lately had some shit going on
I would run to the parents and tell them what the others would do, but they brushed it off for whatever reason and wouldn't stop the other kids from doing wrong. After doing that a few times i would take matters into my own hands and resorted to pushing them and other minor things to shut them up. Once that happened my aunt started calling me a bully. Fighting isnt my thing. Never has been, but being young and unheard what is one supposed to do.... even after being picked on by the others i would always try to keep things fair among the kids during games or snacks we would get. Be the referee
From what I understood your aunt is either a toxic person or she just didn't know you defended yourself. Yea I understand, you gotta have your own back, neither do I like fighting but when you don't have anything else to resort to then just let it all out and send them to hospital :D
The strongest people are the one who got hurt, and still carry a big heart full of love to share, because they didn't break under bullies and toxic people. :) I love your personality thank you for sharing I really appreciate it :)