Resolve the pressure of complaining in time
When we encounter unpleasant things, we don't ask for full blame, but we must consider whether we can solve them with other better methods, so as to achieve a satisfactory result.
When people are in an unpleasant state, complaints will follow, and it will also work with anger to disturb people's thinking. Its harmfulness is like the square in mathematics, and this kind of geometric escalation is often caught off guard. But if we can prescribe this kind of complaints, the pressure will not stop in our hearts and everything will become calm.
In life, we will always encounter a lot of unsatisfactory things. Many people always complain for a little thing, or blame it tit for tat, and eventually lead to a big mistake. When we are full of anger, we might as well tell ourselves: Wait three days and think about this again. In fact, if we really wait until we are calm, we will find that there is nothing to complain about at all.
To prescribe a prescription is to not speak or act easily when grievances and anger are in full swing, because at this time when people are confused in their thinking, they cannot look at the problem rationally, and always exaggerate the seriousness of the matter, which often leads to big problems. Faults, especially those with bad tempers, should slowly learn to control their emotions in order to resolve their unhappiness.
In interpersonal relationships, if we encounter others embarrassing ourselves, we can also use wit to resolve the unhappiness, break the deadlock, and never let ourselves fall into embarrassment and depression.
Once, when Lincoln was giving a speech, a young man handed him a note. Lincoln opened it and saw that there was only one word on it: "Idiot." A trace of displeasure flashed across Lincoln's face, but he quickly recovered his calmness and smiled and said to everyone: "I have received many anonymous letters that only have the text, no letters The name of the person, but today is the opposite. Just now this gentleman only signed his name, but forgot to write the text."
In the face of such "humiliation", Lincoln did not complain and magnified the matter, but used a humorous way to transfer the grievances, which not only reflected his wisdom, tact and mind, but also secretly "teached" the young man.
Throughout those successful people, there are no other people who are open-minded and open-minded. They will not be fussy, complain, accuse, tit-for-tat, or get angry with each other because of small things. Instead, they will easily resolve everything with an up-and-coming attitude. contradiction. Struggling without reason is not cowardice and swallowing one's voice, but a manifestation of a person's self-cultivation. Turning fighting into jade represents wisdom and is also a manifestation of ability.
Therefore, when we encounter unpleasant things, we must learn to give up complaints and accusations instead of asking for full blame. We must consider whether we can use other better methods to solve the problem, so as to achieve a satisfactory result of turning fighting into jade. When we are complaining or angry, we might as well tell ourselves: after three days, think about it again, or we can take other more moderating methods, but we must remember not to tit for tat and ask for trouble.